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Your worst fears...

Discussion in 'Personal' started by lmnop, May 26, 2016.

  1. lmnop

    lmnop Occasional commenter

    According to a Dorothy Rowe book I read years ago, everyone's deepest fears can be boiled down to 2 scenarios depending on whether you are an introvert or an extrovert. These fears are so strong that you fear you would cease to exist if they were to come about.

    For an extrovert it is the fear of being all alone in an empty universe with no hope of ever meeting another living being again.

    For an introvert it is a fear of loss of control over the outside world. If you suddenly lost control over every aspect of your life - where you lived, who you lived with, what job you had, what and when you ate, when you slept, when you had quiet time - if all this were to change on a daily basis, with no hope of it ever stopping, an introvert would feel they would almost literally explode.

    Apparently secret service agencies around the world key into this when interrogating suspects - extroverts kept in solitary confinement whereas introverts made to feel utterly disorientated by eg someone interviewing them for an hour then coming back two minutes later acting as though this were the first time they had ever met them.

    As an introvert I can relate to this - the disorientation techniques would be far worse for me than solitary confinement. How about you?
  2. nick909

    nick909 Star commenter

    Boris and The Donald, being all in charge.
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  3. kibosh

    kibosh Star commenter

    The empty universe and the disorientation technique scenarios are quite extreme examples. I would find both equally terrifying in reality. But in my imagination I am somehow able to glamourise the desolation, and wander lonely as a cloud in the empty universe, whilst I can't find a way to do the same for the second scenario.
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  4. nick909

    nick909 Star commenter

    Yes. I think I agree with that. Think of the reading you could get done.
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  5. Orkrider2

    Orkrider2 Star commenter

    As an extrovert who can't bear the thought of not being in control of myself or my situation, I find both equally disturbing in different ways. Both would probably lead to a mental breakdown pretty quickly for me.

    All my fears revolve around something happening to my children and not being able to do anything about it. It's the kind of thing I dream about when I'm really stressed or anxious and the images haunt me for days afterwards.
  6. Flere-Imsaho

    Flere-Imsaho Star commenter

    Neither bothers me more than the other. It's amazing what you can and will adapt to as normal if that's all you experience.
  7. lmnop

    lmnop Occasional commenter

    I suspect a real extrovert like, e.g. Chris Evans would almost embrace the chaotic scenario as long as there were people he could connect with, whereas he would find the idea of the empty universe utterly unbearable.
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  8. CedricDaniels

    CedricDaniels Established commenter

    Clearly, there are a lot worst fears than in the OP
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  9. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Hell is other people. Said someone. Once.

    I agree.
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  10. Didactylos4

    Didactylos4 Star commenter

    I don't fear either of those scenarios

    My only real fear now is that I will lose control of my body/mind at some point
  11. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    A prolonged and painful death. I don't fancy that at all.
  12. Jude Fawley

    Jude Fawley Star commenter

    That they'll tear down the wall.
  13. nomad

    nomad Star commenter

    I find the thought of The Trump being more than a passing fart in the breeze quite worrying.
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  14. magic surf bus

    magic surf bus Star commenter

    I think my idea of Hell would be a cruise ship, so I suppose that makes me an introvert.

    I imagine I could cope with solitary confinement for longer than most.
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  15. sparkleghirl

    sparkleghirl Star commenter

    I thought this was going to be about the snake that came up the toilet in Thailand and the poisonous spiders in Gateshead.
  16. delnon

    delnon Lead commenter

    Being forced back into teaching. :eek:

    Unless the bunglers who've ruined it were all taken for a cruise half-way across the Atlantic.
  17. InkyP

    InkyP Star commenter

    This is my worst fear. Of the two options in the OP I think the loss of control would be the worst.
  18. slingshotsally

    slingshotsally Star commenter

    They don't have much imagination do they?
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  19. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    Worst fear - that something awful happens to my child. Pretty common fear for all parents, I'm sure.
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  20. InkyP

    InkyP Star commenter

    Yes, and it doesn't stop when they grow up. They have children and there are just more people to worry about.
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