Dear all, Having a break from writing the self-evaluation..... Upon reading a lot of threads - there is a general feeling of unhappiness; The teaching staff being unhappy with the SLT (and vice versa), a class divide between support staff and teaching staff. There is an endless list of these areas of conflict. In a world where we are constantly being politically bashed, it saddens me to my very soul that such unhappiness is actually being created by US. By people in our profession basically being very unkind to one another. When I first started looking for senior leadership posts, I asked a very wise man for some advice. His name was John and he was a retired head. Sadly, he is no longer with us, but his words of wisdom are his legacy. I asked him one day what his secret was for running a very happy and successful school (and it really was!) He said to never forget to treat the staff with kindness and love, because it is they who pay-it-forward to the children. Look after them. Now that I am a Head myself, I hang on to those words so tightly. I hear and read about other heads who seem to have had personality transplants when they get the big office and their engraved plaque to go on the door - developing a cold ruthlessness that Miranda from 'The Devil Wears Prada' would be proud of. The words, 'we're doing this for the children' are one heck of an alibi for treating people badly. I understand now more than ever that there is a different set of pressures when one becomes a Head and, quite correctly, professionals need to be held to account for their work - but what we do with those pressures and how we conduct ourselves as leaders is what makes the difference. Even though I will make many many mistakes in the years to come, I hope that those wise words from John will always resonate with me and guide the way I run my school, so that when I am asked, "Are you a good man?" I will be confident in delivering the answer. Best wishes. KB.