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Your gender and the doctor's surgery

Discussion in 'Personal' started by modelmaker, Sep 9, 2011.

  1. modelmaker

    modelmaker Occasional commenter

    It's a well documented fact that women feel more inclined to visit the doctor than men do. Whilst doctor's surgery's find themselves filled with women with nail varnish alergies, men need to be carried in on a stretcher to be seen.
    Why do you think this is?
  2. Henriettawasp

    Henriettawasp New commenter

    Is it? In my family it's t'other way round - not that Mr Wasp is particularly prone to wearing nail varnish.
  3. There are more things to go wrong on a woman.
  4. Seadream

    Seadream New commenter

    Men see making a fuss about something being wrong as some sort of weakness. If my Dad had been back to the docs he'd be alive today, but instead he died of bowl cancer. No-one wants to be poked and prodded there but it could save your life. Chaps - get yourselves to the docs because you just never know...
  5. landaise

    landaise Occasional commenter

    Not true, MM!
    We've lived here for 5 years, lots count of no of times Monsieur has been to the doctor's (twice this year already, plus blood tests ) whereas me: zero.
    But then I have a cold occasionaly, never 'flu' (of the man variety!!!)
  6. guinnesspuss

    guinnesspuss Star commenter

    Same here. OH is the moaner. He'll have the Spike Milligan epitaph, "I told you I was ill." because I tend to ignore his complaints these days.
  7. Women are much more inclined to go to the Drs or get things checked out.
    There is a well known phenomenom called 'Hand on the ****' syndrome. This is where the man goes to the Doctor, spends 7 minutes talking to the Doctor about his "ever so slight sore throat, but honestly it's not a problem, and I'm only here because my wife made the appointment". The Doc takes a quite look, nothing there, so says "Don't worry, your fine" The man then stands up, walks to the door, puts his hand on the door ****, half opens the door and says "Oh, and I pass loads of blood every time I go to the toilet and it really hurts.....but don't worry Doc, I'll make another appointment when you're less busy" and whoosh he was gone!
    Why men don't go though is a problem. Way back when I trained nearly every surgery or hospital would run a 'Well Woman' clinic or similar. 'Well Man' clinics are still not everywhere, and even the enlightened places have only been doing them for a very few years.
    No wonder we die younger eh?

  8. *clouts MM* [​IMG]
    I dislike visiting the GP but I do, rather than get agitated with worry. Perhaps I like the reassurance that I am not at death's door? Some things do get better with treatment as well!
    I suspect most men THINK they are at death's door if they have so much as a twinge....and they'd worry themselves to death rather than admit fragility or vulnerability. I have lost count of the times I have had to cajole, nag, encourage, persuade or just downright frog-march a man to the GP's surgery.


  9. Good point CG.
  10. Dragonlady30

    Dragonlady30 Star commenter

    Getting Mr D to the doctors is more difficult than getting Israel and Palestine round a table for talks!
    When I'm off colour, he insists I visit the GP; when he's ill he expects me to diagnose and treat him. I know mum was a nurse, but I'm not a doctor!
    Our practice is great, having GPs of both genders, each with their own specialism. I have never had to wait for an appointment-as long as I ring before 10am, I have always seen someone that day-either a GP or Nurse Practitioner. That's fine too, because if she can't help, she gets a doctor! Win win situation.

  11. I spent years in Medical reception while doing my teaching degree by Distance Ed. And yes... definitely more female patients than male patients.
    Scariest experience was when a couple wandered in asking if they could see a doctor. They were new patients so I said no, as we had no appointments left. The man started walking towards the door when his wife said "Oh..... it's just that he's got chest pain...." Hauled them back, called a doctor on the internal line, who saw him immediately....
    Husband was still saying "Oh, for God's sake.... it's probably indigestion" as the doctor started shaving his chest to take the ECG. That was when he had his heart attack..... he survived due to the doctor's quick action, and the ambulance came.
    Left to his own devices he would probably have died.
    I think men on one hand can be complete and utter hypochondriacs ( the common cold becomes 'male flu'.....) but tend to bury their head in the sand when it comes to serious problems.
  12. JTL

    JTL Occasional commenter

    When my dad died about 22 years ago, it took the surgery a while to admit that he was actually a patient there, as he had never visited them!
  13. Anonymous

    Anonymous New commenter

    Actually I think "manflu" is a problem -when men are ill, it's often not taken seriously or dismissed as "man flu".
    On the other hand, I think there is a thought amongst GPs - if a man goes to the GP something must be wrong.
    And it doesn't help with stereotypes like this. All men seem concerned about is their p*** .
  14. If I finally manage to persuade my husband to see a doctor, unless he's diagnosed with a terminal illness he thnks he (andd by extension, I) wasted everyone's time.
  15. grandelf

    grandelf New commenter

    In general we live in a country where the focus is, and probably always will be, on womens health. When men get 'ill' the old stereotypes of man-flu and such like come out and some men are simply mean with ridicule.

    The other factor is woman in general are more open with each other, esp in terms of help and support when it comes to medical matters. How many times have you been sat with an older dear (bus stop, train station etc) and before the wait is out you know all about their (and their families!) medical history.

    Generally men will not discuss health issues with each other, normally due to fear of ridicule or lack of sympathy. I cannot imagine any of my male friends or peers (age between 16 and late 50's) openly talking about any serious health issue as part of daily life with each other!
  16. BelleDuJour

    BelleDuJour Star commenter

    This is so true.
    As I see it, women are far more comfortable about their bodies than men. This comes about from having to deal with periods at an early stage, then smear tests, pregnancy and childbirth. Once we've gone thorugh all that we're inclined to give not a tinker's cuss who sees what, and drop our knickers in the surgery even if for a sprained ankle! We also have children whom we take frequently to the doctor, so we often develop a better relationship with our GP than our menfolk do.
    Men on the other hand................hmmmm. God help them if anything goes slightly amiss below the belt. The average man would rather boil his head in vinegar and stick pins in his eyes before dropping his kecks to be inspected (never mind handled!) by a fellow human being, who is not only neither his wife or GF, but may be another man! Hence the high mortality rates on the UK for testicular, prostrate and (in men) bowel cancers.
    Sad but true.
  17. lardylady

    lardylady Star commenter

    I thought all men suffered from that [​IMG]

    Many of my female friends seem to take sole responsibility for their husband's health. I've read numerous articles in various Women's magazines, where the female reader is encouraged to take a proactive role in making sure he checks for lumps/gets that mole checked etc Men seem to be babied throughout their lives when it comes to health. They should take responsibility for themselves instead of having the Mrs badgering and cajoling them to see a GP.
  18. Well I think its because men handle pain better than women. Women can't really handle pain. Dead soft.
  19. BelleDuJour

    BelleDuJour Star commenter

    Assuming you have a significant (female) other then I do hope after reading this she puts your balls through a mangle. Then we'll see who handles pain better! [​IMG]
  20. Haha! She aint into the kinky stuff! [​IMG]

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