Post 40: Yes, all of these are the rational ways of dealing with what can be a very tricky situation. However: all of them depend on the support you're likely to get from your workplace. What if there's a certain amount of shall we say, ambiguity in the attitude of staff and parents to this kind of thing? I've been in situations where the voicing of a complaint would be used against the plaintiff: s/he would become the target of undermining gossip about how s/he 'had no sense of humour';was 'oversensitive','neurotic', 'didn't understand young people' --- oh, a selection of reactions to prevent his/her complaint being taken seriously. As for the parents--- well, there are parents who back their kids in incidents of physical abuse against teachers: are they likely to be bovvered about a few 'jokey' remarks?