I am tutoring maths to a Y5 pupil and a family friend has suggested to the parents that he has Aspergers. His number work is weak, working around age 6 with addition. Mum has done a lot of times table work, with some success. He has, in some early lessons got very frustrated on 2 or 3 occasions ....tears and hitting own head. Managed not to have a repeat of that behaviour in the last few months. Parents have often had tears when trying to work on Maths. He can spot patterns but has poor retention and benefits from extensive practice. He is an only child and parents are in their own words the age of many grandparents. The parents are concerned about their child’s progress and mum has pushed traditional arithmetic early and beyond age expectation. Past teachers have commented on adept use of avoidance strategies. He often hums as he works. He collects stones and lines them all up. His school have expressed concern because he wrote he was dumb in a piece of work. School have got some confidence boosting strategies in place for a small group including this child. The child is something of a perfectionist and can get upset when he fails to complete things as he wishes eg not performing to his usual standard in his archery lesson. His mum is trying to work with him to realise, ‘it doesn’t matter.’ At a recent parents evening his teacher said he has not met a pupil with difficulties in all subjects in the way this child has. His maths and writing were said to be ‘developing 4’. The parents are meeting the teacher again in a couple of weeks. What advice would you give them?