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Would you send your child back?

Discussion in 'News' started by misslingo, Jun 11, 2020.

  1. missaks

    missaks New commenter

    There has been so much controversy and conflicting info regarding school return, that parents are actually driving themselves crazy with the dilemma of whether they should send their own children back to school. The problem is, it is all very well saying you should do what you are comfortable with, but a lot of parents won't feel comfortable with this until the virus is diminished, while recognising that it is important to send children back. What kind of feeling do others have?
  2. Ro13

    Ro13 Occasional commenter

    Had my children still been young children then definitely not. If they were teenagers then I may well have sat and talked to them about how they felt.

    I am glad they are grown-up and I do not have to make decisions, though I have a lot of parents contacting me to ask advice & obviously I can't say do or don't so it is hard. I feel for them :(

    ACOYEAR8 Star commenter

    If my child had been socialising as much in the local park and speeding up and down roads on bikes yelling at people and breaking the SD rules, hell yes, i'd send him back.
  4. CabbageWhite20

    CabbageWhite20 Occasional commenter

    My children are young and my worry has mainly been whether the nature of the return would be worrying for them, with strict distancing rules and playground gossip that scared them. I know they are very low risk for the virus and that not being at school for 5 months is not good for them. Based on the inside information I have from teaching at the school myself, I would send them back. I don’t really believe the ‘bubbles’ we have could prevent spread if the virus was there, but balancing everything up the school are doing their best and I think being in school would be in their best interests.
    welshwales likes this.
  5. PeterQuint

    PeterQuint Lead commenter

    My kids are still at school (primary and secondary).

    The older has been great at getting on with work, and she’s fine at home at the moment. The younger, he needs leaning on more, and is also missing his friends. He has a key worker place, so is going back on Monday.

    The school have been great. They have social distancing, plenty of safeguards, etc.

    I have no worries for them. I’m maybe more concerned that, if he got it, we’d get it off him. But I’m slowly going back anyway, so there you go.
  6. missaks

    missaks New commenter

    Thank you, yes I totally understand all the comments. I do take the rationale that kids are less likely to get the virus etc but its that parent guilt of sending children out into the unknown almost, especially if you don't have to go to work yourself. It is also the kind of thing where you wont feel good about it until the virus has gone ....
  7. Jonntyboy

    Jonntyboy Lead commenter

    Yes. You can't wrap everyone in the world in cotton wool and avoid all risk. This virus will carry on and kill people, just like flu, TB, heart attacks etc. do. People die daily on the roads, but we don't stop all traffic. We live in the world as it is, not in Utopia.
    There has to be a balance.
  8. CabbageWhite20

    CabbageWhite20 Occasional commenter

    Yes. I understand this sentiment completely. When school stopped I think that somewhere deep down I believed that a magical solution would appear at some point and if I waited my children could go back to school with only all the old risks I was so used to I pretty much ignored. I’ve come to realise this isn’t going to happen, it’s just a matter of when they go back to a new normal. I’m not happy about it but they are going to have to go back at some point and I don’t think anything is going to change dramatically to make it worth waiting.
  9. hhhh

    hhhh Star commenter

    I wouldn't have let them, any more than I'd have let them assault people. Although older people are as likely to die of Covid as of being the victim of assault.
    No way would I let them go back (obviously depending on age-if they were 18 I would just hope I'd brought them up well enough to not want to endanger others).
  10. missaks

    missaks New commenter

    I think this is a great attitude and I do agree on the days where I want to send the kids back but on the other hand all, I think the worry for parents is if the kids bring anything back from school and make the parents ill instead who have to look after the children! I know that's a worst case scenario but stil a scenario ..
  11. ACOYEAR8

    ACOYEAR8 Star commenter

    There are many adults whose claim to parentage is limited to a brief biological interlude before sleep.
    They are scared to control their kids or even suggest they refrain from doing things that upset others.
    They rarely use the word 'no' and consequently when children do encounter it, the result is bewilderment and lots of umbrage.
    Happyregardless and Catgirl1964 like this.
  12. dumpty

    dumpty Star commenter

    Without any doubt. None whatsoever.

    Two reasons:
    1. I do not believe the risk to children or staff is of any real concern.
    2.I think it could be seriously damaging to the health of children not to socialise with their peers and continue to learn through same.
    Jonntyboy likes this.
  13. Jonntyboy

    Jonntyboy Lead commenter

    I would support this with two amendments. I would insert the word "most" before "children" and before "staff".

    I think we must still recognise that we need to protect and shield that small group of people who for various reasons are likely to become seriously ill if they catch this horrible bug.
    Happyregardless and dumpty like this.
  14. PeterQuint

    PeterQuint Lead commenter

    What scientific evidence do you have that staff are not at risk?

    Because I watch the government press Briefing every day, and read every article as it comes up, and the message is consistent - the science is inconclusive.

    What do you know that our Chief Scientific Adviser, Chief Medical Officer, SAGE, the government, and all of the scientific studies don’t?
    Happyregardless likes this.
  15. dumpty

    dumpty Star commenter

    How are you defining risk? I said of no real concern, that is not risk free but certainly not high risk. Is but an opinion though, one shared by some scientists, one not shared by some.

    Absolutely. Hence why I write 'I believe' and not 'I know'.

    There is no compelling evidence as you request either way. What you and I do is read as much as we can and then choose our side.

    But crucially, it is also for me difficult to look my postman in the eye (out every day since March 23rd) and know I am going shopping, to B&Q, the beach, the park, able to visit people and from Monday pretty much go anywhere and yet I am still not doing my bit.

    By my bit I mean assisting kids with their social skills and life skills - which can only be aided through real interaction with each other.

    We could and should be doing more.

    You have said yourself science is at odds with itself. Only thing I would say we are close to knowing is this cannot in any way, shape or form be good for the mental and physical development of the children.

    And it is our job to take care of them. We are not, no matter how we spin it.

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