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Would you do this?

Discussion in 'Workplace dilemmas' started by Chellie, Sep 24, 2018.

  1. Chellie

    Chellie New commenter

    Hey everybody. I’m a long time member. Changed name to not be identified!

    I am a head of year and teach a core subject.... and I think I will resign for Christmas. I’m scared.

    I am well respected by kids, staff and senior team, but smt haven’t listened to me when I’ve said I teach too much etc. I can’t say too much without my being identified so this all sounds a bit clipped.

    I am in a fortunate position where I can be financially supported if I leave at Christmas. I don’t want to do this anymore. I don’t want to work like a dog and more and more is piled on. I plan to tutor and look into different sorts of jobs without the same pressure.

    I hate letting people down but I can feel I am reaching my limit.

    Would you do this? And if so, would you leave it until the absolute deadline or tell them sooner?

    Is this a selfish move?

    Thanks everyone. X
  2. 7eleven

    7eleven Senior commenter

    I did it and didn’t regret it. Life’s too short to work yourself into the ground if you have other options.
  3. Bedlam3

    Bedlam3 Star commenter

    What's selfish about it? You can leave whenever you want to. What I would say though is have a think about how you will feel afterwards when you've worked your notice and left. Will you feel Relieved? Angry? Taken advantage of? Happy? Worried about what you will do next? Pushed out?
    Only you know how you feel about it. I would suggest you don't resign early. You have up until 31st Oct to see if anything changes.
  4. pleasemiss__

    pleasemiss__ Occasional commenter

    In any other field I never hear of employees experiencing as much guilt as teachers do when they think about leaving their job, to better the quality of their lives or change careers or whatever. I suppose it’s because teaching occurs in neat 10/11 month cycles that start and end. And leaving ‘mid year’ seems like a big deal and like we’re letting those young people down.

    I understand the feelings you raise. But I don’t think you’ll regret leaving, especially given your financial position and employment options at this point. You’re one of the lucky ones. As am I. I’m probably leaving my job at Christmas too.
  5. pepper5

    pepper5 Star commenter


    It is not selfish. If you fell down tomorrow in front of the whiteboard, the SLT would scoop you up and replace you the next day. Hard thing to think about, but true.

    You have worked hard to be in a position to leave, so go and enjoy the freedom. You can always go back to it later.

    You are NOT letting anyone down; rather the reverse. If the schools were more reasonable in their expectations, then you wouldn't be leaving.

    All the very best for leaving and regaining your peace of mind and health.

    I would leave it to the deadline to tell them.
  6. Chellie

    Chellie New commenter

    Thank you for responding. It’s mainly the worry about money and getting another job because I don’t want to rely on support for long. I’m past caring about being pushed out, and I don’t think I am because they wouldn’t want me to leave, but circumstances have meant I am pushing myself out. They assume I am just going to keep going. You’re all right though. Life is too short to work this way and it’s only a job isn’t it. Kids move on and get over teachers leaving. Good luck to anyone else in the same boat. X
  7. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    As long as your partner is happy with it? Go right ahead.

    It's a job. You are NOT Mother Teresa. You are a person who is in the labour market. You have many options. If you withdraw your labour you won't be paid. That's not selfish. It's your decision.

    You can take up employment elsewhere. As long as the market is prepared to offer you work. Stacking shelves. Teaching. Delivering the post. Motor mechanics.

    You can do any one of a hundred things. Followed shortly thereafter by a change of heart and do something (or nothing) else.

    Who are you again? I don't need to know exactly. Just to be sure though. You're NOT Mother Teresa? Good.

    Don't tell them now. You might change your mind. Don't be silly. The dates are there for a reason. They are fair to both parties in the employment contract.
  8. FrankWolley

    FrankWolley Star commenter

    Good luck to you - if you aren't happy or fully satisfied and can afford to make a change, why not do so? This life isn't a rehearsal!
  9. drvs

    drvs Star commenter

    No. In your position, having absolutely decided that I can and will leave, I would lay out to the school leadership that I've reached the end of my rope with the working conditions and am ready to resign for Xmas, but that I would rather work with them to improve my working conditions and stay in the school.

    There's about a month until the resignation deadline (check your contract) which is plenty of time to see if they make changes you are happy with or just pat you on the head.
  10. MrMedia

    MrMedia Star commenter

    Core subject? No problem. Lots of well led schools will be delighted to have you,

    One doesn’t leave a school, one leaves a leader.
  11. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Good thinking by @drvs
    I love that.

    You can weaponise your flexibility. You can leave without a second glance. Or you can stay.

    Are they going to make it worth your while to stay? Up to them. Ball is in their court.
    tall tales, agathamorse and Bumptious like this.
  12. Apple76

    Apple76 New commenter

    I did it last year - left in summer, had a term off then went back to work part time. This was due to personal issues and I most certainly didn’t regret it.

    I’m currently back at work full time and at the moment have decided I will leave in the summer term. Some days I think I’ll go before then but I think I can hang in. I don’t want to do this anymore. I don’t think being at work and feeling rubbish most of the time and wanting to cry when I wake up is normal, so I need to look after me. For me it’s oartly workload but partly just life stuff which has happened that I need some time to process and deal with.

    I teach a shorthand Subject too. Last time I had a term off I got an interview for almost every job I applied for - took the first one I was offered but there are so many opportunities.

    Life really is too short to be unhappy. Good luck whatever u decide.
    jlishman2158, agathamorse and pepper5 like this.
  13. englishtt06

    englishtt06 Occasional commenter

    We've taken on a few teachers in our organisation who have stepped down from leadership/middle leadership roles back to classroom teaching for various reasons but, to surmise, all to get their lives back (and see their families again etc.). So it is possible to move into a more 'manageable' role. Ironically, if you are a Head of English (you just say core subject), I hear tell it is the other way around - you get more time and work/life balance as you move up the greasy pole (rather than down).

    What I would say, though, and have said before on here: none of us are irreplaceable. There is a martyrdom in teaching which only impacts on the martyr and their immediate family. If you leave....the students will do okay: they always do. If you drop down dead from work-related exhaustion, would they all attend your funeral? No. Some might, but not enough to make it worthwhile. Would they thank you for it? Some might, but not many.

    You will be replaced, the school will move on (or muddle on). Save your sanity, save yourself, reconnect with your love of education by taking a related role such as an Education Officer in museums or the arts etc., or tuition, or a specialised intervention support role - they have them still in my old LEA for core subjects. You have a rare opportunity to not worry about money.

    Also, as a core subject teacher, if you go and regret it, you won't have to worry too much about finding work again , especially if you're not too fussy at first!
  14. mothorchid

    mothorchid Star commenter

    In five years' time, do you want to say "My health is b*ggered, my family life is shot, but I stayed in my job" or do you want to be happy?
    School, the students, colleagues, they got along without you somehow before, they'll do so again.
    And yes, by all means, try asking them to change and then (I am cynical) when they don't, resign. They will be shocked, because of all the things they will have done to support you. These things will be two infinitesimal changes, which have cost them nothing. They will have made no difference. You will walk away and take six months to recover your strength and then you will find another job and be HAPPY.
    Go for it!
  15. chelsea2

    chelsea2 Star commenter

    Could you ask to go part-time?
  16. GeordieKC

    GeordieKC Occasional commenter

    @drvs suggestion could be good, by talking early you give management time to address your concerns allowing you to once again enjoy your current role. The risk is that they could also use the time to put pressure on you to back down or accept some minor improvements - if you go this route be very clear on the minimum that is acceptable to you and accept that a possible outcome will be your departure with management accusing you of blackmail.

    Resign now or on the deadline the choice is yours, but if you are not happy do make a change.
    jlishman2158 likes this.
  17. MacGuyver

    MacGuyver Occasional commenter

    What's more important to you; your health and well-being, or a school that keeps piling on the work, regardless of your protests?
  18. sbkrobson

    sbkrobson Star commenter

    I'm confused about posters who say that OP should go to management, say what they don't like and then wait and see if any changes are made before resigning.
    Have these people not read the opening post, which quite clearly indicates it is precisely the fact of having done this already which makes them feel the way they do?
  19. drvs

    drvs Star commenter

    IMO there's a marked difference between a teacher carping about workload and a teacher stating that they are prepared to resign on the spot if the school is unwilling to address the workload issue. HTH.
    jlishman2158 and grumpydogwoman like this.
  20. Chellie

    Chellie New commenter

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