What options would a person have if they recieved a job offer at another school, accepted it and handed in their notice at their current school then the new school requested a reference and as a result withdrew their offer based on information included in the reference? Is it standard practice to ask for references prior to interviews? Or afterwards? I'm concerned, despite being a solidly good teacher, that my reference may not be glowing due to my head making it clear she does not want me to leave. I also had a few weeks absent from school last academic year due to my dad suddenly dying of cancer. I'm applying for another job (not even sure I have an interview yet!) so it is just an unlikely event scenario, but I really want the job so I'm worrying and it's causing me to loose sleep!