Hi, My current headteacher has just interviewed myself and 3 other people for a Second in Science position. My lesson was graded good not oustanding, but in feedback from my Head of Science I was told that if my lesson had been outstanding then I would have been given the job. I have since seen a head of chemistry job at another school, went to see the Head to ask if I could put him as a reference, he made me cry saying I was disloyal and that I was not good enough and that I should take a good, long look at myself in the mirror and then realise that I am not ready and should not apply. I have been told that I should take it as a compliment as he is scared and does not want me to leave (he has hinted before that he wants me to stay and be head of department there). However, I am now worried that he will give me a bad reference and I will not get an interview for the other job? Someone has told me that they do this, leaving out any positives and only writing negatives... Any advice would be really appreciated, both with what to do about the situation and also my application for the other job... Thanks!