Hi, how do you do it? My lovely elderly mum has been through the mill recently, but now she is back home from hospital and, she is very limited in her mobility and can just about shuffle around the room with a frame, she stayed in a rehabilitation home for 3 weeks following a hip replacement where she managed to make her own sandwiches or toast, however, now back home, she can hardly do anything for herself. Both my brother and I work full-time but do what we can for mum, when we can, i shop, clean, cook and shower her (she refuses help from outside agencies), brother does all the the rest, DIY, home maintanance etc , we make a great team.. We both have families of our own too. Although, i love my mum to bits and care about her deeply, I am finding it all very exhausting, as I see her every other night, after work, and stay about 2-3 hrs, brother does the same on the alternative night...I can not afford to go part time. Sorry for the rant, my much needed wine has made me open up..