Hubs2b and I went to a few wedding open days today - One at a local hotel which was very lovely but pricey (£6k for 50 odd guests!) and another further afield which was simply pants. Viewing another next week near Stansted, which costs a bomb but the package offers a lot. We're looking now but not actually doing the deed until early 2019 - reason being we want to be able to save up and pay cash, so no credit card issues where we can. It's so frustratingly expensive - had I stayed in my awful teaching job, we could have saved up in no time because i'd have been able to put a ton more in the kitty. Now my earnings are roughly in line with hubs (£1,000-ish a month each, we live with parents, the car running costs and the stupidly expensive gaming PC he just treated himself to on finance are the only overheads we have) we can save a bit, but not too much. It's so infuriating!! We have to either spend silly money on somewhere very nice and get the day taken care of, or spend slightly less on registry (all the ones available near us are rather drab and not nice) and then a hall (drab and not nice) and have to sort decorating and catering ourselves...meaning stress out of the ears. I'm not even factoring in the clothing and cake yet...Honeymoon is already decided on and is not cheap (back to Rhodes, to the childfree luxury hotel we fell in love with when we went before for our first 'proper' holiday together.) On top of all this, the in laws are creating merry hell about it all, continuously impressing upon me how their wedding cost £500 'down the registry, then back to mums for a buffet' so we should be doing that and not spending money... bearing in mind they got married in 1992, and it's their son that wants a huge wedding more than I do! Grrrrhhhhah! Sorry people, rant over!