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Why am I such a wet wipe??!!!

Discussion in 'Personal' started by bizent, Feb 3, 2011.

  1. bizent

    bizent Star commenter

    I moved in with my best mate last year and everything has been great, we get on, the place is tidy, we bicker and have little gripes but nothing that has caused a problem.
    Anyway, I am increasingly aware that it is HIS flat (which it is!) - he's never done the "It's MY flat" but it has been implied a few times and at my age I feel like i shouldn;t be someone's lodger. This is a personal feeling and not a judgement of others that might be in the same situation.
    I've told him that I want to branch out and get my own place and that it isn't because I don't like living with him but I just want to live my own life.
    The problem is another friend needs to move out of his shared house and we had a chat and it was one of those "why don;t we get somewhere together" moments. Now I feel like I am leaving my best mate in the **** because I am moving out but also feel like my reasons are completely contradictory because I am moving to share with someone else.
    I am trying to justify it by looking at it from an all equal point of view whereas we'll be sharing and I won't be someone's lodger.
    I realise how wet and petty I sound and I hate it but why am I fretting so much about upsetting other people and as a result puttinh my own life on hold??!!!!
    AAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHH!!!
    Any advice? or witty anecdotes?
    a very spineless,
    Biz x

     
  2. BelleDuJour

    BelleDuJour Star commenter

    Biz...you can do what you like!
    If you get a place with A N Other it will be 'our place'.
    If you stay with your mate it will remain 'his place'.
    Soz can't be much more help.
    Tricky one but look after number one!
    x
     
  3. 1. Introduce your mate to your best mate/landlord.
    2.Move out to your own place.
    simples. !!!
     
  4. bfudge69

    bfudge69 New commenter

    I'd simply explain about wanting to get on the property ladder. It's not easy starting out so shared ownership between friends is an option. Your best mate/landlord should be able to understand that. If not then offer to pay a deposit for part ownership of his place. This means that your rent is not 'dead money' but contirbuting to the purchase of the flat.
     
  5. bizent

    bizent Star commenter

    He wouldn't even consider that - he wouldn't be in control!! haha
     
  6. bizent

    bizent Star commenter

    true on every point their Belle and I really should be looking out for myself more!
     
  7. lurk_much

    lurk_much Occasional commenter

    I think prices still have a way to fall, another 10%. They will do it by remaining steady and inflation will do the rest. There is no rush. Saving is probably the wisest course at the moment.
    If you are sure you won't be wanting to change your house for a good few years. When the hoped for spring price rise fails to materialise vendors will begin to feel desperate, that is when you should pounce, like a little fierce terrier snapping up a fat black rat.


     

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