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Where would you like your ashes scattered?

Discussion in 'Personal' started by emilystrange, Feb 19, 2016.

  1. emilystrange

    emilystrange Star commenter

    Just been reading about a friend finding the spot up in the moors where her dad had said he wanted his to be scattered.
    I thought about this for a while, and couldn't think of anywhere. Nowhere round here. I've lived here for nearly 30 years, but it's not anywhere that's kind of 'sacred' to me, if you understand. Nowhere is. Some places that meant something aren't there any more anyway.

    That's if I end up being cremated, of course!
  2. peakster

    peakster Star commenter

    Into the North Sea at Scarborough
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  3. racroesus

    racroesus Star commenter

    Maleficent says that I shall be buried. I think she has plans for a solar-powered defibrillator to give me a surprise in the coffin.
    sabrinakat and magic surf bus like this.
  4. phlogiston

    phlogiston Star commenter

    Not really fussed - too late to worry.
  5. CarrieV

    CarrieV Lead commenter

    Heysham Head
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  6. Flere-Imsaho

    Flere-Imsaho Star commenter

    Don't care. I think it's more a ceremony for the people doing it so wherever they fancy really.
  7. emilystrange

    emilystrange Star commenter

    Mr S has an uncle who decided to scatter Grandma's ashes in a park. Without telling the other siblings,until much later. He also kept some of her belongings, without them being aware that he had them in the first place.
  8. magic surf bus

    magic surf bus Star commenter

    I'd like to become part of my favourite beach.
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  9. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Don't care. I'm aiming for an eco-burial in a cardboard box in woodland. Like my mother.

    Food for worms.
    Lara mfl 05, InkyP and racroesus like this.
  10. racroesus

    racroesus Star commenter

    You and me both.
  11. Dragonlady30

    Dragonlady30 Star commenter

    OH and my ashes will be scattered with our daughter's. Her ashes were scattered with OHs parents.

    I think it's important that family know wishes of their relatives as it saves all sorts of misunderstandings.
  12. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    In the same box? How very presumptuous of you! ;)

    Oh, go on then! As it's you.
  13. jubilee

    jubilee Star commenter

    We kept my mother-in-law's ashes in the house for about a year as Mr jubilee wasn't ready to scatter them and was undecided where they should go. I started to feel uneasy every time I passed the cupboard with the urn.
    She was eventually scattered in the same area that she had chosen for my father-in-law's ashes.

    I'm not sure where I'd want to be scattered. I'll almost certainly be cremated. The land requirements for cemeteries would be too great if too many of us opted for burial. My daughter insists that she wants to be buried. She's very much into history and family tree research and gravestones provide useful data!

    I might perhaps ask family to scatter me on the former 'ancestral' land in Italy. My mother was unsuccessful in gaining her share of the family farm that her father grew up on(and inherited with his siblings) and financially supported (as an economic migrant to the UK in 1912). It was eventually sold but I could stake a postumous return! I have visited and it's a beautiful setting (not that I'd be able to see anything)
  14. sabrinakat

    sabrinakat Star commenter

    Lovely, but sad. I remember you telling us a little about your daughter....

    In my case, I would like my ashes scattered in the forum in Rome and in the garden at my Oxford college (where my pet hamster was buried) IF I AM CREMATED. May go for the other option....

    Can I still haunt people if I am cremated?
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  15. coffeekid

    coffeekid Star commenter

    I'm donating my body to medical students (if they'll have me)
    I can be useful even when dead, and also my daughter won't have the burden and expense of arranging a cremation/funeral/coffin. She can throw a memorial service and wake for me if she wants to.
    "Win", as they say, "win"...
  16. Duke of York

    Duke of York Star commenter

    Only if you can whistle a haunting melody.
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  17. rosievoice

    rosievoice Star commenter

    My friend's ashes were mixed up with Earl Grey tea leaves (her favourite) and scattered around rose bushes.
    I want to be put into one of our compost bins, but Mr Voice isn't too keen, the wuss.
    Lara mfl 05 likes this.
  18. Orkrider2

    Orkrider2 Star commenter

    I'm thinking about this too. I was looking at real human brains the other day, and I felt very grateful to whoever it was that decided to donate their body so that I could use it to learn stuff.
    coffeekid likes this.
  19. sabrinakat

    sabrinakat Star commenter

    felt hungry?
  20. marymoocow

    marymoocow Star commenter


    That is if I am cremated. I'd prefer an eco burial in some woods.

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