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When can I leave on the last day of term?

Discussion in 'Workplace dilemmas' started by Rosaceae, Jul 21, 2019.

  1. afterdark

    afterdark Lead commenter

    What you describe certainly transgresses boundaries and gets into unprofessional territory. So going through your account.

    Not fair, but you did know you had an annual appraisal did you not? Lesson there is prepare way in advance.

    No, no, no. Not their concern. Transgresses boundaries. Has happened to me too. The air was rather blue by the time I had finished in my case.

    How unprofessional of SLT member. Happened to me too. O and the thought you had done was the same too! You been living part of my life. BTW when that thing happened to me I projected across the classroom "do you think that you could be more professional and not criticise me in front of student, particularly not when you are bloody well wrong and I have not done XYZ". If they don't like it, they shouldn't dish it out should they?

    Was I one of them? Sounds like it.

    I think these events have effected you more than you realise.
    Remember it's not you, it's them. When the good guys leave and don't stand up to be counted, in a way the kn0bb4rs win.
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  2. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Not attending makes a powerful statement too.

    You could have the best of both worlds.

    Send the gushing email to all.
    AND ensure you tell a couple of your friends that, had you stayed, you would only have told your adversaries (sad that it's come to this that anyone might think this way but....) what miserable worms they truly are.

    And, let's face it, that'll get round. Up to you. Do you want to wreak havoc?

    Yes, it'd be great to confront people whom you think have served you ill and, if you could gain thereby or help someone else, that might be the right thing to do. Would it though? Make these people think again?

    ROSIEGIRL Lead commenter

    Do what feels right for you.

    If you really don't want to stay, I think @mollyhog has a very good compromise solution - you get to leave but not in a perceived huff. You remain polite and considerate but don't have to waste hours in a very uncomfortable situation.

    Take back a bit of control and walk away with a big fat smile on your face!
  4. peakster

    peakster Star commenter

    It has been more of a trend recently to not go to leaving "do's" - ours is today after school. There are not many people going and two of those are not going to be there so it should be short.

    I've sat through two hours worth before on the last day - very unnecessary.
  5. afterdark

    afterdark Lead commenter

    Beware of emails. You can easily mistype and be on record for something that you never intended to put, or even the opposite of.
  6. FrankWolley

    FrankWolley Star commenter


    But I'd send an email thanking a few friends (if you want), but NOT the SLT before just leaving at the end of the day. Maybe send email to HT (or text) as you sit in your car, then switch phone off and drive away!
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    SEBREGIS Lead commenter

    Just walk.

    They can tell you to prepare lessons and teach. They can’t insist you take part in fun staff activities.
  8. annie2010

    annie2010 Occasional commenter

    Sounds as if you're well out of there!
    If they're being pernickety about time, stay until the official end of the school day-avoiding the so-called fun event- then 'Go, walk out that door...'
  9. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Who doesn't edit their email? :eek:
  10. DexterDexter

    DexterDexter Occasional commenter

    I left my school when term finished on Friday and I left 12 minutes after the bell rang.
    Today, my school email has disappeared (they’ve probably read every email I’ve sent/received).
    As they’ve made you ill (as my school did), they probably don’t care about you.
    Look after yourself and leave when you want to.

    SEBREGIS Lead commenter

    True, true. You would be as welcome as Banqo’s ghost at Macbeth’s feast.

    Just drop off the key, Lee, and get yourself free.
  12. a1976

    a1976 Established commenter

    I really do believe the OP should just go. He/She could simply tell the school the he/she is not feeling well and leave. I think that would be the best thing because from what I've read here, the school was quite in the wrong on several occasions (e.g. socialising with staff too much out of hours). It is NONE of the school's business what staff do after hours as long as it does not cause harm to the school's reputation or learning environment. I think what people need to realise is that colleagues and SLT will throw people under a bus whenever it is necessary. I'm sorry those of you who are genuine but that is the type of environment many schools and other places of work have these days. That is why I never have stayed for leaving presentations and whatnot. So, what I would do is politely say that I was not feeling well and feel the need to leave after the kids do, but thank everyone and maybe even send a card or two to relevant people. Whatever you decide to do, best of luck to you and I wish you happy and safe summer.
  13. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter

    Don't you just hate those pesky migraines that strike out of the blue?!
  14. a1976

    a1976 Established commenter

    I do :)
  15. 8sycamore

    8sycamore Occasional commenter

    Do not be tempted to do a ranting speech, listing every wrong perpetrated against you. At best you'll appear unprofessional, at worst you'll come across as insane.
    You may need some sort of reference in future, even if you plan to leave teaching. Do not give them any ammunition.
    Also, as you will know, the teaching community is pretty small. You never know - you may want to return to the classroom in the future. Do not burn any bridges.
    An icy silence says a lot.
    Above all, remain professional until the very end, however tempted you are to tell them to stick their buffet where the syn don't shine!
  16. vannie

    vannie Star commenter

    I left my last school after 12 years, 5 years ago. I organised taking all my stuff home during the week so on the last day I just had to grab my bag (and gifts!) and go. My friends there knew how I was feeling and were fine. I did, however, seek out the head and make a point of thanking her for all her ‘support’. Walk out. Head high. **** em all.
  17. FrankWolley

    FrankWolley Star commenter

    Really, really DON'T go if you don't want to. I can't think of another 'profession' where you would be expected/advised by so many to put yourself through the kind of torture this event tomorrow obviously will be for you...why are so many teachers so masochistic? o_O
  18. peakster

    peakster Star commenter

    We had our leaving "do" after school today- it was pleasant and short.

    Last day tomorrow
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  19. 8sycamore

    8sycamore Occasional commenter

    I've done this myself. I was, however, moving to a different part of the country, had my reference and couldn't give a stuff what they thought about it.
    I totally understand the machinations of certain SLTs and I am a firm believer in the adage work to live, not live to work.
    All that said, if there was the slightest chance I'd need a reference or that they could disadvantage me with gossip, I would just attend. I would play the game, even if they knew I was playing the game. In short, I would put myself first.
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  20. minnie me

    minnie me Star commenter

    I never attended the leaving things - not even my own. I just made sure that it got back to the person organising it
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