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Discussion in 'Workplace dilemmas' started by Rosaceae, Jul 21, 2019.
Post of the year!!!
So the thought of taking part in the after school activities is making you sick. I imagine on the day you'll feel even worse. In which case, tell someone you're not feeling very well if you are not and go home. You may be technically their employee until August 31st, however, their ability to tell you what to so in that time will have gone once you leave on the last day of term.
Wait until the morning of the last day and ask for a copy of the directed time budget as you feel you have already gone over 1265 hours so don't need to stay
I'd be ill on the last day of term and so miss the entire thing.
Yes I know it is totally unacceptable to do such a thing, but if you are leaving no-one is actually going to chase you up about it.
Mind you the idea of 5 hours of socialising with colleagues would have me feeling very, very ill so it wouldn't really be a lie.
Why do schools organise such things on the last day? Don't they realise that heaps of people just want to get home as soon as possible and drink copious amounts of gin for the next 6 weeks?!
Whenever I left a school I always strolled out with the kids. My job was over. Work done.
Do that or leave 15 minutes later. On your way out leave a note on someone's desk. "Absolutely exhausted. Just had to go. Hope the evening goes well. Bye." So they don't end up looking for you.
Directed time usually finishes about 15 minutes after the bell. But I wouldn't worry about it unless you've left your room in a mess or something.
@simonCOAL I'm being honest. She would rant and rave at people, and then on their last day, pull out big teary Hollywood style speeches. But what really irritated me is asking a departing teacher to give a speech that went on for twenty minutes, in a soft voice people couldn't hear, so people got bored and started to chat. Ridiculous. Just say "thanks, its been good, bye", and go. No one wants to hear a life story, because I doubt, by the last minute of the last day, anyone actually cares.
When working full year (ie not teachers holiday) contracts I have had a sadistic fantasy of the teachers having to stay for a 4 week long speech and the end of term food rotting away....
My weird ideas aside, I know of a colleague that hated the school and department and left before the speeches, no comeback tbh.
My temptation would be to write a barbed speech to get some things off your chest but I advise against as teaching is a small world.....
Even if you hate the school, there may be a bottle of wine on staying for speeches.
I actually advise just going to it all. Not going will leave a bit of a 'not left properly' that might haunt you into August. You dont have to follow them all to the pub after, you are rushing off on holiday, aren't you!
Nah. Nothing beats walking out with the kids.
Someone texted me once. Where was I?
"Er, I told you I'd be gone with the kids. Which bit of that wasn't comprehensible?"
My advice in the lead up to this would be to take your stuff home in Monday. That way you can leave without being encumbered (and possibly go straight to the pub with your real friends!).
Having read a few of your posts again my new advice is to email the head tomorrow and just say that you do not feel comfortable about staying so late - thank her for - whatever and then tell her you will be leaving after lunch and to convey your apologies to all concerned.
Then walk away.
I'm with GDW - as soon as kids go, tidy your desk and send an email to all staff thanking them for the support they have given you and saying you find 'goodbyes too emotional' so you are sure everyone will understand your need to leave without a fuss. Wish everyone a lovely summer and all the best for the next school year. Then skip out of the gate and celebrate with a coffee and slice of cake on your way home. Have a great summer holiday!
Great diplomacy from @mollyhog
Do exactly that!
I'm of the age now where if I really, really don't want to do something that isn't essential I won't put myself through it. I had a similar but different situation where the "right" thing was to go but it was making me feel all anxious just thinking about it. So I made my polite excuses and didn't go. I agree with the posts above that you should make sure you clear everything out tomorrow afternoon. Then on Tuesday do exactly as Mollyhog says in her penultimate sentence above! And maybe post on here and say how relieved you are! Best of luck x
Totally agree. We broke up Friday and were told by the Head we had to be out by 4 (school day ends at 3.15). Being expected to stay til 6pm for forced socialising is utterly horrendous!
@FrankWolley. A deserving way to treat some colleagues.
Pack up all your things the day before or at lunchtime on the day. Share your plans with NO-ONE.
Just before you leave, if you live nearby or you potentially could bump in to people again as you're still in the same catchment, send a gushing email wishing everyone well, thanks etc & make up some excuse why you're not coming to the party e.g. it's all too emotional/you have the plague.
Additionally, buy cake/biscuits for the staffroom with a clearly labelled thank-you card or note expressing your undying love & gratitude.
Obviously wait until all the kids have gone and then, GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE! Turn off your phone & treat yourself to something nice. Nothing will happen!
Much love x
Load up your car at lunchtime if possible so you can get away quickly
You should ideally stay until the end (if time is reasonable) to show your courteousness and professionalism- if you don’t want to make a speech, that’s fine. You don’t have to- the Headteacher might want to wish you farewell and thank you in public for your years of service, but you can specifically mention this prior if you don’t want them to.
Despite my somewhat flippant post earlier, this is really what you need to do and the reason why.
'Telling' the head you aren't going, either by email or face to face, is not the way to go. My head is one of the nicest around, but wouldn't be at all happy with me 'telling' him what I will and won't do.
I think it all depends on your relationship with school/staff and the Head etc and how you would feel on the day.
We broke up on Friday and I was so emotional that I cried the whole hour of my free lesson. I decided I wasn’t going to stay as why do I need to put myself through it and to be honest no one cares - people just want to go home!
It was only an hour afterschool for us (we had to teach the whole day).
I bought some biscuits and a thank you card for the department and asked the HoD if he can share with the staff there and the HoD was very understanding he said he will let the Head know I was too emotional.
So to give you an advice, it’s your last day- no one will think too much about it. Put yourself first and just politely ask the Head and bring some biscuits/chocolates for everyone. Go home and enjoy your break!