We have discovered some shocking news about an old neighbour of ours. We considered him a good friend and tried to visit at least twice a year after we moved away. We are also friends with one of his grown up kids. Due to a busy year we havent seen him or his daughter this last year. We have just found out that he has just been sent to jail for abusing children in his family. We had no idea and never suspected anything. I feel sick that as a young couple and then as a young couple with a family that he was potentially grooming us when we lived there. I am also doubting my own judgements about people. As our children were only 2 years old and a baby when we moved away and were never left alone or babysat by him or his wife we initially felt sure that our kids were ok. I've since discovered that he did it in public or when others were around, so potentially when he took them briefly into the kitchen for a biscuit when we were visiting, he could have had the opportunity for a quick assault. Our kids really like this man and sometimes ask if we are going to pop in when we are out his way, which is most months. Would you just let the memory of him lapse as my husband thinks or tell them about him as I think. They are now early teenagers. We are far enough away to not come across anyone that knows him, but we are still in touch with his grown up children and will be staying in touch with them. If we tell them, how would you broach it? After a stranger danger scare in the area, my son is already abit scared of paedophiles as it is. I was a victim myself as a child so am trying not to let that cloud my judgement. I have very mixed feelings about him, from anger and disgust and betrayal, to mourning the man I thought I knew and feeling sorry for what is an old man and what will happen to him in prison. If he doesnt top himself, I cant see him coming out alive. However I know he deserves everything he gets because he has destroyed his family abusing 8 of them and made them go though the full court case denying everything. My head is all over the place at the moment.