This is probably goona look simple on paper and like maybe I hsoudl just cut my losses, but here goes (the shortest version I can muster) Been with my bf for 2yrs, moved 70 miles to live with him at his parents at Christmas. This was because we wanted to be in the same area and it was easier for me to move than him. I have a new job up here, and am starting my MA in September, semi funded by my school. His parent's house his huge and there is plenty of room here I give them money each month, but they won't take much off me. Living here is very helpful for my savings, as with the minimal amount I pay here I should have a house deposit by the end of 2012. I have joined a local social group and I have a friend that already lives up here. Here are the issues! My bf has lived at home always, he went to uni and then dropped out after his first year. Since then he has worked in the family business, a cafe owneds by his grandparents. He plays rugby semi-pro and gets about £80 a week ish from that. He is very intelligent, good education from a grammer school but has done nothing for almost the past decade in terms of education or other work. Since we met he has wanted to try and make his life better, and so has done a foundation year in Sciences (A levels are Russian, Economics and IT). He is looking to do a degree next year and has picked Nutrition. The problem is he has no real direction, one minute it is nutrition, then it is primary teaching, then it is not a degree but personal training course. Meanwhile I am left to wait for him to become an adult, live in his parent's house for 3 more years?! If I save a deposit he can't afford to move in with me and I can't afford to keep him. It means that i cannnot even think about kids for the next 3yrs, and I just don't know what to do any more. I feel so low about it all, and I feel trapped. If I move out then I can't afford to save anything towards a house, if I rent a room I also can hardly save and I'll live with a stranger in a strange area. I find it so frustrating, anyone else my age would be able to share the cost if living somewhere and he can't.