Hubby is 65 in a month and I am planning a surprise lunch party. All MY family are eager to come but his daughters and brothers and sisters have something else on and have asked me to reorganise. The 'something else on' is nothing major and I am really disappointed that they are not making the effort to come. If it was their mothers special day they would not even think twice. I have organised something special twice in 15 years - am I asking to0 much?