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what have we achieved

Discussion in 'Personal' started by oldsomeman, Apr 28, 2011.

  1. oldsomeman

    oldsomeman Star commenter

    Today having time to sit and reflect( and the immenent pressence of many suffering folk )as i was waiting in out patients.Plus the song on thehospital radio i did it my way.
    I wondered .What do we consider our most significant achievements(s) and which one would we do or change if we had the time of cash
    on the negative,,,,i would certainly travel widely if i had the cash
    I wish i had been guided and helped to achieve my ambitions of becoming a head techer.
    achievement......... to have achieved the role of a teacher when I was told by teachers i would never be anything in life! Secondary mod boy....leaving school with no qualifications and yet managed to become something.
    To have helped in the raising of 2 fine children who wonderfully didnt go to far astray( well son did enter the punk fray for while...but life sorted him out! lo) .oh and the wife of course how coud i fail to mention her!
  2. Bethannie

    Bethannie New commenter

    On the negative side...
    I feel a bit of a failure.....
    I have never had a serious relationship. Never really had a friend.
    I have never married.
    I have never had children - and barring a miracle, I can;t have any. (The only one in my large family not to bless Mum with grandchildren - and it hurts!)
    I have no money, and live in social housing.
    I can no longer work - and I'm not even 50! (Not yet...the time to my fiftieth is getting ever closer!)....and I walk with a stick!!!!

    On the positive side:
    Despite have a cluster of Learning Differences (eventually diagnosed a year or so ago as ASD) I managed to stay in mainstream schooling.
    Although I only managed a few average qualifications at school, I studied at home and got my A-Levels and a Degree....and followed this by managing a year at Uni and qualifying as a teacher.
    I have overcome some pretty rough things happening to me in my early years - and shown a strength that few people expected from me.
    I managed a few years of work with troubled teens. Stressful as all hell, but about as rewarding a job as anyone could ask for.
    I manage to live independently....difficult at times, but I do it!
    On my 'good' days I manage to be a half-way decent cook. I can do cross-stitch and bobbin lace-making. I can write entertaining stories. (OK, so these things take me about 10 times as long as others, but I can still manage them - I'm counting that as a positive!)
    I have seen a fair amount of the world.
    I have managed to build up a strong relationship with God, and played a small part in helping others build their own relationships with Him.

    The positives generally seem to outweigh the negatives - which is all anyone can ask for!

    What would I change?
    Surprisingly little!
    I still hold out that one day I might find a partner. I suppose I would like to overcome my 'socialising' issues enough to actually meet people and give myself a chance of finding someone. ....It would also be nice to meet my Aussie friend...Or even to go the proposed 'Cookery' meet....
    Some days, I would love to feel 'useful' again.
    I'd like to one day feel able to complete my Theology degree.
    And I'd like to travel again one day.

  3. lurk_much

    lurk_much Occasional commenter

    I have been positive and kind.
    I think.
  4. bizent

    bizent Star commenter

    I have learned to put myself before others and not to worry about the little things.
    I feel my career hasn't been amazingly successful due to hardly out of this world changes I have made as a faculty head but I am quite proud that a teacher who was failing when I first arrived at the school is now a HOD and doing extremely well. I'd like to think that it was my guidance and adive that helped her.
    I make a bloody good lasagne and cottage pie.
  5. I have raised three children to adulthood and been very pleased with the results
    I have managed to stay married to Mr C in spite of severe provocation at times
    I am a good friend and I have good friends
    After many, many years of merely earning money I managed to become a lecturer at the age of 48
    I have finally learned to recognise that "those who mind, don't matter and those who matter, don't mind" .
    I have learned, like Bizent, to put myself first and not to fret over unimportant things
    Oh, and I can cook
    My life is good and getting better.

  6. Anonymous

    Anonymous New commenter

    I hope your wait in out patients isn't for anything serious, oldsome.
    What have I achieved? Nothing spectacular but my contribution to the world hasn't been a negative one. My recent brush with my mortality made me reflect a little and I decided I was reasonably pleased with my achievements and didn't have too many regrets...even the lousy decisions and unfortunate events turned out okay in the long run. For most of us that's the most we can hope for.
    I plan to be around for another 30 years so maybe I'll do something amazing yet.
  7. oldsomeman

    oldsomeman Star commenter

    Just a glucose tolerence test serndip......seems im finally falling apart1
    My trouble following the thread..is that now so many things are possible that i couldnt do in earlier years.........and no to old to have time to do them all.
  8. egyptgirl

    egyptgirl Senior commenter

    Negatives: I'm very aware of my Mum's mortality. I'm very aware of most of my family's mortality.Nothing really to do with my achievements as a human being, I know, but its still the negative in my life.
    Positives: I married a wonderful man and (despite thinking it wouldn't be possible) we are expecting our first baby. I can cook. I can garden. I'm a damn good teacher. I'm polite and respectful.
    Changes: I'd like to be able to say 'NO!' once in a while. I'd also like to not have a commute but that's probably a goal for the future.
  9. oldsomeman

    oldsomeman Star commenter

    how come i never find yes woman?[​IMG]
  10. anon2799

    anon2799 New commenter

    2 (so far) smashing kids and a very happy relationship with Mr CG for the last 22 years. Good friends who know where I am if they need me and who really go the extra mile for me too.
    A job I love and I'm doing to the best of my abilities ( and no major *** ups so far). Decent qualifications in spite of going to a truly **** school and having to work 3 jobs through uni. I like where I live and I like my life. The one thing I would change is my parents' health but, I've learned to accept the way things are.
    It's been a good life so far.
  11. bnm


    A happy marriage: doesn't feel like an achievement as there is no work involved, but pure joy
    A good relationship with my siblings: this has become better over the years and my sisters are fab (my brothers too, but I chat more with my sisters)
    Financial stability: it sort of just happened as a by-product, but it is as a result of my hard work
    A job I really enjoy: I'm trying to make the most of it as it might not last
    Lots of different experiences: I feel as if I have really lived and grasped opportunities whole-heartedly
    My only regret is that my dad and my husband didn't have time to get to know each other before my dad died, so dad never knew how happy I have become
    My life just now is the best it has ever been.
  12. kibosh

    kibosh Star commenter

    Nowt, nowt and nowt
  13. bombaysapphire

    bombaysapphire Star commenter

    Based on seeing your posts and responses to them on here Bethannie you appear to have quite a few good "cyber" friends. That is something to go on the positives.
    I am solvent and happy. I love my husband, my dogs and my home. I enjoy my job and find it satisfying.
    I have been through some very significant upheavals over the last 10 years. If I wrote the story of my life I think a publisher would throw it out for looking exaggerated. Most people I know aren't aware of any of that which I am very proud of. I know what doesn't kill you makes you stronger but there are bits I could have lived without.
  14. Victoria Plum

    Victoria Plum New commenter

    POSITIVES: I have a job that I enjoy - most of the time - that enables me to live quite comfortably! I have a beautiful house, all of my own, and only 19 years of mortgage left to pay!! I have a brilliant circle of friends both real and cyber, who keep me sane and I LOVE spending time with. I have been brave and branched out into new social activities that have just increased this brilliant circle of friends and opened me up to new experiences! I've lost a stone and half in weight and feel much better for it! NEGATIVES: I have quite a large credit card bill which I DID pay off once but has crept back up again - it's not unmanageable though! I'm nowhere near as organised as I need to be, which causes me more stress at work than is necessary!! I don't travel as much as I'd like to - mostly due to a lack of someone to go with! I have a couple of health issues that I can't quite seem to sort out that impact on my life at times. I have still to meet the elusive Mr Right, and despite my excellent social life, am very often lonely.
  15. oldsomeman

    oldsomeman Star commenter

    so far i have found the rplies so positive,,makes me sit down and reconsider some of my values...thank you so far

  16. ilovesooty

    ilovesooty Star commenter

    Negatives: I held onto a failing marriage when I should have called it a day many years earlier. Through a horrendous divorce I lost my house and doubt I'll ever be able to buy another.

    Positives: After I finished teaching I rebuilt my career completely. My work is well regarded, I've learned many new skills and I'm good at my job where I know I make a difference. I retrained and qualified as a counsellor and I've already got some paying clients. I've become self sufficient and learned if I don't put myself first no one else will. I've learned, gradually, to like myself and my relationships have improved as a result.
  17. Achieved..bought my marriage back together again after what could have been a regretful split
    Bought up 3 wonderful, healthy, independent, happy children, now adults.
    Enjoyed 2 very different careers, nursing and education.
    Looking after my lovely, elderly mum, resulting in her extended quakitity of life..
    Managing many lifes' ups and downs and coming through them practically unscathed.
    I'm happy [​IMG]


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