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What do I do with him?

Discussion in 'Behaviour' started by chriszwinter1, May 21, 2012.

  1. chriszwinter1

    chriszwinter1 New commenter

    Perhaps the HT needs to intervene with the parent. You should not be fighting this battle alone, if at all.
  2. Is his mum doing the work with him though?
  3. re

    re New commenter

    Get your head to explain to mum that he would not be kept in at break if he did the work at the allotted time - in other words, being kept in at break is partially punishment for misbehaviour.

    Is mum doing the work with him or for him?
  4. Does he have a specific learning difficulty which affects his confidence? Have you tried to find a reason for his lack of effort? Perhaps he finds it more difficult than others to write. Is he dyslexic? How is his reading? There could be other reasons for his lack of cooperation. He is only year 3 - still a young child. Perhaps you need to think about this a little more.
  5. re

    re New commenter

    A young child who needs to learn to obey instructions otherwise he is going to be in conflict with authority throughout his life.He can do the work, but chooses not to and is backed up by his mum.

  6. But is he in conflict with other instructions or just those to do with work? You haven't mentioned other aspects of his behaviour.
  7. foxtail3

    foxtail3 Star commenter

    Do you know whether he was expected to work independentlybefore he came to you. Is he on the Code of Practice at any stage. If so, he's entitled to a certain amount of support, but not someone with him all the time. Could the TA explain the task again to him after your input and then let him know how much is expected of him in 5 minutes. A timer often works. The important thing is for you or the TA to return after the 5 minutes and check. If he hasn't done what you've asked, he says in for 5 minutes to do it. You've made your expectations clear, you've followed through with a consequence and he hasn't lost all his play, so mum will find it difficult to complain.
    If he still refuses to do anything and downs tools the minute an adult leaves, is there any mileage in creating an independent work area for him in the classroom (if space etc allow.) With reduced distraction opportunities, he might have a go. A visual timetable just for him could help as well.
  8. Is he tired? have you met with the parentsd to discuss other strategies/ have you tried an incentive or reward chart with him for when he does comply?
    Sopunds like your playtime strategy isn't working (and isn't likely to while it doesn't also have the backing of home) and you (and parents, and smt etc) need to come up with something else, together which you can all buy into. I second the timer idea above as well.

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