My mum had already had a bit of a wobble on the phone to me yesterday, asking me if I thought she was a bad mother to which I obviously replied no. Then today, I got a text telling me she'd had to put her 18 year old cat down due to kidney failure. As soon as I could, I called her. To hear your mum crying down the phone, knowing you can not make her feel any better is terrible. I felt useless. I felt sad for the cat, who was temperamental but beautiful and part of the furniture but clearly old and frail. But I felt worse that nothing I could do or say would make mum feel better. I had to go and teach but text her later telling her I loved her lots and she did the best thing, even if it didn't currently feel that way. When I called her at the end of the day, I told her I would come up and see her (she is in Suffolk, I'm in Essex) this weekend and keep her company, take her out. She said no, that she was fine. My sisters all live nearby. Mum has been gagging for me to move nearby for ages. I feel now that I should after how useless I felt today and knowing that soon Mum will be having a hip replacement and with the two most local sisters both pregnant, I need to step up and move.