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Discussion in 'Personal' started by Shedman, Aug 16, 2019.
Santorini - ex volcano which blew up in fine style, devastated the surrounding region and ruined the lives of tens of thousands for many years to follow.
Stay at home, buy them a broom and suggest they jump over it.
These bridezilla types are appalling. No class, no manners.
Even less likely the children would have been invited to that one!
But the earth moved.
So if one couple weds on Santorini, does the next couple try to outdo them with Krakatoa or Mt St Helens?
Even Hawaii is seriously volcanic. What is it with extravagant weddings and vulcanicity?
Use your imagination.
HAD to go. Yeah.
Daughter 1 told me that on the TWO occasions she took her brood abroad to the weddings of the two sisters of her children's dad. The chap she broke up fairly soon after. Thousands of pounds they couldn't afford. WHY?
These were two women she doesn't even LIKE and never did.
It'll end in tears, that's for sure. Some people just seem to lose all sense of proportion where weddings are concerned.
Both my daughters are at an age where many of their friends are getting married, and I frequently hear tales of totally unreasonable expectations and behaviour. The younger one's boyfriend recently had to schlep over to Bulgaria for a colleague's wedding. Prior to the big day he was issued with a colour scheme: colours guests would be permitted to wear on the big day, so as to blend in with the bride and groom. My elder daughter was telling me that she has been invited to the evening do at a wedding where her partner has been invited to the church ceremony plus evening do. She is not going to go.
This morning my hairdresser was telling me that last night her next-door-but-one neighbour phoned to say that her daughter's wedding in Cornwall next Saturday has just been called off by the bridegroom-no-longer-to be. My hairdresser and her husband had booked accommodation (trip down from London so making the most of it) - so will go down anyway. But the expense that will have been for nought, right down to the planned evening barbecue on the beach. They've each had two hen / stag do's - home and abroad.
So much nonsense for what should be a happy occasion for family and friends!
Yes, we had Hove registry office on a Monday morning. We had a nice lunch in a posh hotel overlooking the sea, for our few guests. We went home in afternoon for tea. I wore an M&S suit that I knew I'd get good use out of at work subsequently. 30 years later we are still together (plus the 10 years before we actually married). We cite this to our girls on a regular basis. Luckily neither of them is impressed by the whole big wedding shenanigans.
My husband has a second cousin who invited us to her wedding and on the invitation it said that the female guests had to wear hats. We didn't go - I am not going to a wedding where I am told what to wear.
I can think of quite a few hats that would have turned such presumption into a farce...
Fortunately I have little to do with such events, the last stag-do I went on was a weekend in Sheffield where the groom originally came from.
I do watch with some wonderment on FB about the rituals and events that seem to surround weddings that are nothing to do with the actual celebration itself. One that caught my eye was a couple who fully documented their "handing out of the invitations evening". Bridesmaids, best man, maid of honour (I'm still not convinced this isn't just a fancy jam tart) etc. who had all agreed to play their role went to the house on an appointed evening. Outfits were bought, hair and nails done, champagne opened etc. and then..... they were handed their actual wedding invitations. Yup, that was it.
These trivia seem to take up so much time and effort. I remember my first contact with this world when a good friend, the first I knew to get married told me that one Saturday they were "Going to go and choose the wedding invitations", the whole day taken up by perusing and choosing some plain greetings cards, even then they couldn't find anything suitable and at least one more whole day expedition was mounted to complete the task.
Bridezilla does seem to be a common (in every sense) theme nowadays. It's the whole social media circus.
I deplore the waste.
None of them has much money. How about saving? Even if you're loaded? Give it to a charity!
Sounds like this little number would have been appropriate - talk about creeping fascism.
lol. I blame the wedding party companies for upping the stakes in all this. Completely agree with you. Re Maid of Honour, I always understood that the convention was the Bride's 'attendants' were Bridesmaids if unmarried but Maids of Honour if married.
Ive worked alongside a few Bridezillas who have shared details of each step, including invitations, colors and fonts. And the inevitable diet updates. I think it really tests the resolve of the groom, like a test to see if he really loves her.
I think the chief bridesmaid is 'maid of honour'. Strictly, only if single and the unflattering 'matron of honour' if married.