My daughter was invited to be the Matron of Honour at a friend’s wedding, let’s call the friend Sharon, not her real name. The wedding was to be a church service followed by a reception at a posh venue after the service. My three year old grandson was invited to be the page boy. Firstly, my daughter’s partner and father of my grandson didn’t receive an invite to the wedding. Sharon’s excuse was that she didn’t know and had not met my daughter’s partner. Actually my daughter’s partner seemed to be relieved that he wouldn’t have to go but it struck me that this was incredibly bad manners. My daughter went along with it because she didn’t want to upset Sharon. However, plans went ahead and my grandson was measured up for a little suit. In preparation for the wedding, Sharon, my daughter and my grandson attended a church service at the church in which Sharon was due to be married to get my grandson used to it before the wedding. My grandson behaved very well for a three year old, didn’t make a lot of noise but became a little unsettled towards the end. Now, just a few weeks before the wedding Sharon has announced that she doesn’t want my grandson to be present in the church at the wedding because they were spending a lot of money having the day videoed professionally and didn’t want anything to spoil the event. They suggested that my grandson could still be a page boy at the reception and wear his suit. Mrs Shedman and I had planned to look after my grandson in the church while my daughter did her Matronly duties but as my grandson was disinvited we would need to look after him at home and so we wouldn’t be at the church either. Sharon seemed a bit put out by this and suggested that my daughter’s partner could travel from home, about an hour away, to look after my grandson while we went to the church service and then collect him to take to the reception. We thought that was just rubbing salt into the wound. I can understand that people would want their wedding to go well but it feels to us that the guests to Sharon’s wedding, rather than being participants in a joyous celebration are instead merely an audience to what Mrs Shedman and I have christened ‘The Sharon Show’. We will be attending the reception with our grandson minus suit and going through the motions without causing any trouble but I can’t help but feel that we’ve been sh *t on from a great height.