I'm a primary teacher with 14 years experience that has taught in some tough schools, but tries to maintain positive behavioural techniques etc. I'm feeling a little like I'm 'walking on eggshells' at present. Parents at my school can be difficult - that's not just my own personal opinion - I was 'warned' about they way parents are at this school and thought staff were overacting when I first started here, but now understand what they mean. I've been grateful for such supportive colleagues and SLT on occasion when meeting parents. Colleagues have also told me 'don't worry about them (parents) as it seems to be common knowledge that they will 'have a go' at anyone they perceive to be 'new' to the school? Another teacher with similar years experience was insulted in a derogatory way along the lines of ' Just a newly qualified teacher' ( and no disrespect to NQTS) but this is what parent said, simply because they were new to THEIR school. I am quite sensitive - I do need a better work-life balance and tend to ruminate on things said at work/take comments home with me. I've been accused of 'shouting and screaming' when have only raised my voice on occasion to say " okay everyone ready? Okay let's listen' etc to regroup a large (sometimes noisy) class. The class respond well to signals, they get work completed and are making progress so that's not the issue. Relationships with children in the class are good overall. But I feel 'wary' of disciplining them in the way that I see other teachers/staff do, as children seem very aware and able of their power of going home and telling stories to parents (who will immediately only see their side?) For example I put one pupil in usual school 'playtime detention' for kicking another child and got a verbal threat over the phone along the lines of " well if you do that ( put him in detention) I will go down the route of saying that you are picking on my child" and then the phone put down on me. Relationship since with parent has been okay and positive (despite her never apologising and SLT were very supportive saying " how ridiculous it's a school sanction and they would have done the same" Parents routinely go over my head ( not just mine, most staff) to talk to SLT, who have been there longer/they are used to them etc. I don't contact parents as much as I would like, because of the fear of, if I address issues about behaviour, them taking it the wrong way and blaming me personally for it, rather than working as a partnership? I see entries in the 'play time' book from other classes that are 'more minor' - i.e. 'back chatting' - that I could have put my pupils in for, but warned them or took time off 'Golden time' instead or similar sanction. In a nutshell I feel like other teachers are seen as 'doing their job' when they discipline their pupils, but I'm seen as 'THAT woman, that ogre - she's just picking on XYZ' I was told recently by one delightful parent"If you're not up to the job, you shouldn't be doing it" because her child has been messing around - had been told off and obviously didn't like it and went home telling her I'd had a go at him.He conveniently left out the bit that I had asked to see her because I wanted to talk to her about his behaviour! After half shouting at me and then telling him off in the following meeting - said son is still faffing around in lessons because he knows mum will always take his side. I know we set up expectations and routines when first having the class and we get what we are willing to put up with. I had set high expectations and on the whole class follow them well. But because of this I feel behaviour currently is not as great as it could be and as much work not completed? I'm careful to follow school's behaviour policy to the letter because of this but still find myself 'being apologetic' or blaming myself, if I have to send someone out or resort to playtime detentions or said school sanctions? I feel naturally comparisons are being made between me and another teacher ( the teacher they had before me) A few of the children have considerable 'attitudes' and are rude and I feel this is because they think they can blame me personally as 'the new teacher'?