Hi, I am a teaching assistant in a primary school I work full time with a year 10 student who has ADHD and ASD. I have to shadow and support the student all day. However their behavior does sometimes get to me and I do sometimes end up telling then to "stop" in a stern voice which the SENCO agrees with. Also when the student has a meltdown It annoys me very easily and I end up telling the student to "shut up" which the SENCO also agrees with as she thinks both of these things are done by the student for attention. I have worked with the student since year 8. However the issue is not with the student or staff at my school but with her parents and her primary schools staff. This Is because when the student left primary school her and her mum were told by the staff that she could "always go back to see them" and the student was also told "she could always ask them for advice if she needed to" they also told the parent that "If she needed any advice she could always speak to them" . We have never had a problem with this until last week when we found out that the parent had been talking to the students primary school teachers and saying that "we dont support her daughter" the primary school teachers then emailed us questioning why we don't support the student enough and asking for a meeting with us to discuss this. We replied to this saying " we are doing all we can to support the student". We had a meeting with them on Friday. At this meeting there was myself, our SENCO and our pastoral team and in the end 12 members of staff from the students primary school turned up! During the meeting we was very honest with them about how we support the student and we explained to them how we deal with the students behaviour and their meltdowns. The primary school staff said that we do not do enough for the student however we said we can't do anymore for her(which we can't) so the left the meeting at the fact that the primary school staff we saying that are emailing the head of our school about this!. Just to be clear the primary school is a mainstream school and so is the secondary school I work in. We can't do anymore to help the student, so what do we do? Can the primary school staff get involved like this? Thanks in advance.