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unimpressed with nursery

Discussion in 'Parenting' started by dippy_duck, Jun 17, 2015.

  1. dippy_duck

    dippy_duck New commenter

    Hi and thanks for reading

    Until I had my daughter I taught EYFS in a special setting so I got very familiar with Development Matters. I know it's a bit silly but I've always watched her and unconsciously thought about Development Matters and been aware of roughly where she is and what her strengths are. She is very bright and other parents often remark on how forward she is when we are out and about or St toddler groups etc. 8 weeks ago I started her at a nursery one morning a week just for her to socialise a bit more and today I had a brief report on her progress. I was horrified. They have assessed her to be really behind where I know her to be and also behind for her age. I am confident that she is at least 2 stages above where they say. For example, they say she can string a few words to create a simple sentence but she actually uses long complex sentences; they keep harping on about she does this and that with support but I know her to be confident and independent; the list is endless. Their assessment is way way off, not even just a little bit. I'm now wondering if she's subdued because she is unhappy there, if they just don't know her at all or if they are just not challenging her. I have even wondered if they have baselines her low to look like she has made good progress there. Do I tell them I'm not impressed, do I tell them that I have a solid working knowledge of EYFS or do I just let it go? It seems petty but I'm irritated. Sorry for the rant
  2. Coolgiraffe

    Coolgiraffe Occasional commenter

    I think I would give them a bit more time to get to know her and make more observations. They are probably just focussing on settling her and making sure she feels happy. Then I would ask to meet with her key worker so that you can let them know what she can do independently. If they are a good nursery they should value parental contributions to records anyway. Does she seem happy and engaged when you collect her? She might just take time to learn how to be away from her family and show what she's really capable of. As long as you are happy with her development then maybe try not to worry about her nursery records too much and as she's only attending for a few hours each week it'll take four or five times as long for them to know her like you do x
  3. dippy_duck

    dippy_duck New commenter

    Thank you for your reply. You are right, I do really need to give it longer, although I might tell them I think she is trying her luck regarding the independence. She is switched on enough to manipulate them I am sure :) As she likes going and comes out happy we are upping her days in September anyway. She's only 2 so hopefully it will all settle down and she will show them the sparky little monkey she shows us. X
  4. Coolgiraffe

    Coolgiraffe Occasional commenter

    Ah that sounds great! More days will help the situation. My little girl does two full days 8am til 5 and that seems to be plenty xxx
  5. cheekychops

    cheekychops New commenter

    I was really interested to read your post I have worked in Early Years for 30 plus years and looking after my now 3 year old grandson two days a week I had a good idea where he was developmentally A brilliant talker from two using vocab like huge and massive in context, recognised numbers to ten, colours etc., could recite a nursery rhyme, use a knife and fork etc. I knew exactly what his capabilities where. Fast forward to now. He has been attending an ' educational nursery for two afternoons a week for nearly a term now and last week the staff commented on how chatty and animated he had been that day. I laughed when they said he is really very quiet because I know at home and out and about he is extremely sociable My point being don't worry, all children react differently in different situations I know if I look at my grandsons baseline he may present as being less able but that's how the staff see him in that setting and he probably does behave differently.Hand on heart I know exactly where he is Try not to stress and just let it go
  6. dippy_duck

    dippy_duck New commenter

    Thats good to hear. I am just going to try to put the baseline to the back of my mind. I have done my own on my own paperwork just to make me feel better and prove it to myself. I'm wary of the nursery as a friend has had a problem with them regarding an 'imaginary' difficulty they claimed her child had and now they are finding it hard to shake off the label despite there being no diagnosis as the paper trail has followed him. I have decided to move her. She only has 2 weeks left there. Thanks for replying
  7. hhhh

    hhhh Star commenter

    My child has a similar issue at school-was writing stories before he even started school but only got average level. Guess the teachers are too bubsy dealing with the difficult children and writing recoreds is just a form-filling task they have to get through
  8. dippy_duck

    dippy_duck New commenter

    Your little one sounds bright. What a shame the school haven't noticed. :( I have spoken to other parents who feel the same. I am of the opinion now that they mark them low to show a false rate of progress.
  9. Hi was interested in reading all your posts! You know your child and I think that Nurseries are under so much pressure to complete observations and assessment's that its only a snap shot of the child . From my experience there is a lot of paper work for very little pay! RANT! Take the assessment's with a pinch of salt and not personally. I would mention her achievement's and progress at home, it may help them to review how they write up and reports.

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