Two strokes in a month

My mother has just had a second stroke in a month. My poor dad is so worried and stressed. We are all really concerned about what could happen next. Has anyone out there had a similar experience, and if so what happened? I realise everyone is different and am not looking for blanket reassurance! Would just like to hear from anyone in a similar situation really.
thank you.
Rabbity

 

My mother has just had a second stroke in a month. My poor dad is so worried and stressed. We are all really concerned about what could happen next. Has anyone out there had a similar experience, and if so what happened? I realise everyone is different and am not looking for blanket reassurance! Would just like to hear from anyone in a similar situation really.
thank you.
Rabbity

 

Not the same situation but I do know that the greatest danger following a stroke is another one. I would make sure that someone in the family is the spokesperson, someone who deals with the doctors and asks the questions you need to ask.
How old is your Mum? How able is your Dad to deal with it? Different Strokes are helpful. Headway is a charity for people who have had traumatic brain injury (more accident than stroke), you could have a look on their sites for advice, maybe.
It is very early days yet, so much depends on how your Mum is. Feel free to send me a PM. It is such a shock, take care of yourself.

 

Hello.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. All I know that it will take alot of time for something like this to settle, it's very hard to deal with because it affects all the family, all you can do is stay strong and look after your mum and dad.

I'm currently in the same position, my mum had her first stroke about 2 months ago. It's been very hard to deal with, then she had another 3 strokes and 2 heart attacks. She was in hospital for a very long time, she had test results, they found damage to the left side of her heart, it wasn't firing the blood properly around the body, so the doctors just put her on blood thiners but it didn't help, she was rushed to hospital 2 weeks ago (stroke) they have refered her to a heart specialist, they said that she could need a pacemaker, but they changed there minds about the operation and just last week was rushed back to hospital ( mild heart attack) they can't find the source of what is causing the problems, they put her on new medication, she has been o.k since she has been home, she just feels very tired and out of breath most of the times.

I hope your mum gets better soon and your dad.
Luck after yourself
x

 

Thank you both for your kind replies and advice. It's a question of taking things day by day really, isn't it? Easier said than done! The emotional toll on my dad, driving to and from the hospital every day, not to mention the stress of emergency admissions, is terrible. It's clearly the same for your family, LifesConfusion.
It's good to know there are other people managing the same stresses and we must all do our best to stay strong and positive.
All the very best to anyone coping with ill parents...
xx

 

Your message reached out to me. My mum is ill and I am keeping on trucking. It's so hard when your heart is with your mum all the time but you have to keep going. You can't just sit and wait for bad news to find you.
Big hug to you and your mum.

 

Have logged on for first time in a few days. Thank you so much for your message, gemmiepie. I love the down to earth wisdom there. You are right - we are worried and upset but have to keep on going. I feel guilty if I have a busy few hours and temporarily forget what's happening for my parents - but honestly, what would be the alternative? I will do as you say, keep on trucking!
Love to you and your family.
R xx

 

Hi !
I am trying to talk with teachert who have had a stroke.
I has a full stroke affecting my right side during the Xmas 2010 break.
I am recovering but this recovery is slowing down now as I expected. The dilemma of whether or not I try to go back to work - not yet though because I'd be so ineffective.
I am only 51 (52 in June) so too young for early retirement.
I am trying to keep positive - my niece has been such a profoundly sound carer and my sister for enabling this to happen.
Please contact me on :
susandeborahdavieslowe@hotmail.com

 

Try Different Strokes. They send out a magazine, every couple of months I think. and they have exercise clubs.
Stroke is very diffiicult and it is true that once someone has suffered one they are likely to have another.
Headway are less likely to help I am afraid, in my experience, as they really are more for trauma. Kit Malia has published books designed to help someone who has had a stroke regain concentration. Lots of little exercises that, with support, the person can do. The books are called Brain Tree.

 

There may also be local Stroke Clubs which can be helpful as there will be people there who have made pretty fantastic recoveries and that helps to give you heart.

 

I've just skimmed through the posts so not sure if been already mentioned but your mother should be on medication to prevent another stroke. If for instance it was due to a blood clot then one of the blood thinning drugs is usally prescribed. The same applies for heart attacks.
Hope she makes a good recovery! Some people definitely do in cases like these.