Just wanted to get some opinions on this. My mother-in-law is understandably still extremely excited about having become a grandmother for the first time around 11 months ago. She, like all grandmothers surely do, likes to spoil our daughter whenever possible, but we feel it's become a little OTT. Our house is a small one and we haven't got room for loads of toys and moreover, we don't want our daughter to grow up with TOO much in the way of expensive toys as we both feel that children should have an appreciation of the value of things and that everyone has to go without things they'd really like sometimes. We certainly can't afford to buy her everything she wants as she grows up. We've tried to ask M-i-L to cut it down a little but every time we see her she's bought another expensive, plastic toy (you know, the really noisy ones that seem to be popular these days) that takes up space and adds to the huge pile she's already got. The toys are an issue in itself - we feel that too much in the way of flashing/singing toys are a bad thing. That it might inhibit creative play and using imagination - in the same way that too much console gameplaying seems to inhibit creativity in certain older children. We've suggested and shown her toys we'd ideally like her to get - nice wooden ones, for example - but she doesn't pay attention. It became slightly ridiculous recently when she bought her an electronic, plastic tambourine that simulates a tambourine noise - why on Earth not a proper tambourine?! We've also suggested that our daughter doesn't need any more toys and if she really wanted to help, she could get things she does need, such as clothes and nappies or even just pop some money in the savings account we opened for her (other relations are perfectly happy to do this). It's not even as if an 11 month old needs much anyway - she's as happy playing with pans and spoons from the kitchen and some boxes as anything else. We do appreciate her and all of her help she's given in the first year of our daughter's life. We have mentioned it to her sensitively but she has become offended on these occasion and has withdrawn all support entirely for a period. What do people think? Are we being ungrateful? Should we just let her have her fun and continue to accept endless expensive but unnecessary gifts (something that will only get worse as she gets older)? Or are we reasonable to put our collective foot down ask her to slow down and just get things she needs with the occasional treat? And can anyone suggest how to deal with this carefully?