Firefly, you ask if you are too late to change your mind. As the previous posters have indicated, you are not too late. Sometimes when finely balanced decisions have to be made, it is only when a person decides finally one option, that the right choice is identified. A feeling of that chosen option is the wrong one can come soon after announcing the decision! That old sinking feeling.... But then again, pyschologists might confuse us by telling us that that sinking feeling might simply be related to the anticipatory loss associated with foregoning an option, and should not necessarily be mistaken as you having made the wrong choice. You might get that same sinking feeling if you initally choose to go. This is probably all pyscho babble because i think i just made it up. Deciding between finely balanced alternatives is difficult, and not just for librans! But why do you now feel more lonely after work compared with before you made the ("wrong") decision to stay? Has much on the ground has really changed by your decision? But if moving to BF is genuinely the best decision for you, then changing your mind now and saying to the school that you really need to move should not cause particular problems for your school. Schools expect to deal with staff turnover at this time of year. I might be wrong, but in terms of career progress and ref, it might look better if you do not present your decision to the school (and prospective school) in terms of moving to be with BF.Is there also a good professional reason for moving to the new location... Good luck.