Hi, I am living with a friend who I used to go to school with. I am working full time, usually getting to school for 7am and coming home 6pm. I also help care for my parents who need help with shopping, cleaning, cooking etc. I am only 23 and overall, I think I am balancing everything. My housemate is VERY untidy, often leaving dirty pots, washing, food on the floor from cooking, laundry on the counter as well as rubbish in the living room. Going into the house, I stated that I am very tidy and need things clean as I am a neat freak. She works part time shift work and has around 3/4 days off per week. I often pick her up from work, take her shopping and will share my own meals with her if I make too much. When I bring up tidying/cleaning, she becomes confrontational and argues that I need to do my share too -even though I clean up after myself and always make sure that I leave no mess. I've told her that if it doesn't improve I will be looking for someone else or moving out as the furniture is all mine and that I am happy to live on my own and can afford to move and pay rent/bills. Am I being unreasonable?