Well I think I'm right but then again I'm not really sure! I'm tutoring a yr4 boy for literacy (have posted here before about high expectations of mother). I've been with him since Christmas. Mum explained that he is a very sensitive soul, not really into sport, constitution is not the greatest (upset tummy often etc). It was difficult at first but we seemed to be getting on fine. Mum gradually took more of a back seat by not checking everything he did for me. However, his work for the last 2 sessions has been appalling in my book. I told him last week that I was quite cross about his failure to complete the homework task satisfactorily and that it was not to happen again. I made him correct his own work so that he could see for himself that his well capable of much better work. We moved on and the lesson was quite productive. This week he has again given me unacceptable work. If he was in my class at school I would certainly have raised my voice and told him in no uncertain terms that I was not prepared to accept his attitude. Cannot do that in the home situation so I spoke to him sternly and tried to move on. He started to silently cry. Now I am not a mean person and I hate to see anyone upset but I'm afraid this little boy is getting the better of me. I really want to tell the mother that he needs a good talking to and that he should buck up his ideas or else he wont be getting some 'reward'. She asked me on the way out how he was getting on and I told her that whilst I thought we had made good progress the last 2 weeks had not been great. She said that it was probably because in the previous week he had an upset tummy and that today he was tired because he got home from cubs late but that she would have a word with him about his work/attitude. I really wanted to tell her that her son is quite idle and not in the least interested in any of the 'fun' activities I try to do with him. Arrggghhhhhhh.