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The Samaritans

Discussion in 'Workplace dilemmas' started by Vince_Ulam, Nov 19, 2016.

  1. palmtree100

    palmtree100 Lead commenter

    I wonder where @Vince_Ulam is these days. I just worry in case he had to use the Samaritans himself and that is why he recommended them. I haven't seen him post for a while.
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  2. fishtoe

    fishtoe New commenter

    Hope they are OK
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  3. Vince_Ulam

    Vince_Ulam Star commenter

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  4. palmtree100

    palmtree100 Lead commenter

    Good to see you @Vince_Ulam Haven't seen you on here for a while. You were recommending the Samaritans, which was worrying.
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  5. fishtoe

    fishtoe New commenter

  6. scienceteachasghost

    scienceteachasghost Lead commenter

    It is a sad irony that when our lives are in a place where we most need to talk about it, we feel unable to, too down, like our problems are insurmountable and/or too ashamed to discuss them. Often talking is the first real step out of the mess that Life can land the best of us in.
  7. Stuckatups1

    Stuckatups1 New commenter

    Sad to say I'd never use them now, having had a bad experience a few years back - phoned them up whilst I was going through a very bad time and the woman I spoke to was very unhelpful and unprofessional. Yes, I know they're volunteers, but when I explained my situation, all I got was "Well, what do you expect me to do about it? Pull yourself together and deal with it yourself."
    I attempted suicide and ended up on a psychiatric ward for a few weeks.
    Luckily, I made a full recovery, but I've never forgotten that person.
  8. fishtoe

    fishtoe New commenter

    So sorry to read this Stuckatups1. To become a Samaritan volunteers undergo a rigours application process and lengthy training.
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  9. -Sarah-

    -Sarah- New commenter

    I emailed Samaritans twice when I was feeling suicidal and never got a reply.
  10. fishtoe

    fishtoe New commenter

    Sorry to hear this Sarah - I've now done my training for Samaritans and know that each shift we are required to check and respond to emails that are waiting. They usually get a reply the same day.
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  11. gsglover

    gsglover Occasional commenter

    Good idea
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  12. Teacher-in-Training42

    Teacher-in-Training42 New commenter

    I have used the Samaritans they are 100 percent confidential - even if they have immediate concerns about you unless you want them to break your confidentiality. Whereas, counselling etc will break your confidentiality if they think you are in immediate danger. Samaritans is a really great 24/7 service that has saved my life at points. Would definitely recommend it. You don't have to be going through something major you can start by telling them small things before they get to that BIG point.

    Stay strong guys and most importantly true to yourselves :)
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  13. Teacher-in-Training42

    Teacher-in-Training42 New commenter

    I've never tried the email version. Would they see the email address though?
  14. sophrysyne

    sophrysyne New commenter

    I think you can even arrange to pop in for a face-to-face (although not many do, it is an option).
  15. Teacher-in-Training42

    Teacher-in-Training42 New commenter

    Yeah you can do this some education settings like universities and schools have regular 1-1 sessions with a smaritan in a confidential place
  16. calamansi

    calamansi Lead commenter

    The samaritans were very kind to me when I really needed help after my son's death. They were also kind when I went to them with what were, in the end, selfish problems.
  17. Teacher-in-Training42

    Teacher-in-Training42 New commenter

    it's so lovely to see others have benefitted from their service too :)
  18. PGat

    PGat New commenter

    I had a nervous breakdown in the mid 1980s .
    The 1980s were of course less-enlightened times and poor mental health was something one never readily admitted to - even to the family GP.
    However, having someone to talk to at the end of a phone line and in person saved me from being admitted to a mental health unit or even suicide. The initial embarrassment I felt soon dissipated
    If you are depressed please contact the Samaritans or a similar organisation. I needed their help during subsequent periods of clinical depression during my teaching career in the mid 2000s and then in the late 2000s when I was relentlessly bullied by a colleague. They dont question or advise you but do listen intently; for most of us this alone helps us find a way out of the depths of hell.
    I would alsi strongly recommend looking at Ruby Wax's website. As a sufferer herself she has done much to destigmatise depression and other conditions of the mind.

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