It's about xes so, if you can't cope with adult conversations about you-know-what (and many here can't without a fit of the vapours), go no further if you're of a delicate persuasion. Radio 4. Woman's Hour. Emily Nagoski. http://www.thedirtynormal.com/blog/2010/02/27/do-you-know-when-you-want-it/ I thought it was very interesting. All about involuntary xesual responses, about long-term relationships and waning desire, about issues of consent. Stuff like that. I like her analogy of making lemonade if life gives you lemons. You don't really feel like it. You'd actually rather hoped to be planting some daffs. But hey. The other one is in the mood so the daffs can wait. It's hardly ground-breaking but quite a sensible way to think about xes sometimes. If I did what I said I was going to do and set up my own SRE day-show touring schools (and anyone was daft enough to hire me) I'd use Nagoski's work to generate some conversation.