Tarrek - I am not saying that you are wrong in correcting behaviour that is not desirable. In my mind Aspergers is not an excuse for bad behaviour, and ofcourse Aspergers kids can learnto be manipulaitve. I am merely pointing out that the motivation behind the behaviour is not always just to be naughty. Most AS kids would be mortified to behave badly. They do experience a need to be in control - it ispart of the disorder and a trait many of them have. For example, my daughter needs to be in control of the games she plays with her friends - so much so that she plans the game to the last detail. Then she is stressed when it does not go to plan. She also is going through a phase where she does not want to be off sick, even when she is ill, because her friend will play with someone else. This is not down to her having a controlling personlaity - it is what she does to eliminate unpredictabiltiy and reduce anxiety. Of course she needs to learn that she cannot do this because other people have rights and feelings and thoughts and so on. She, due to difficulties with executive fuctioning/theory of mind, has a hard job understanding otehr peoples needs, emotions and so on. I am not necessarily talking about the way you deal with the behaviour, as the true motivation behind it. Do you understand what I mean? They do have a need to control and they have to learn flexibility, but it has to be taught to them - it won't come on its own. I see nothing wrong with altering a childs behaviour with the use of reward and so on. Sometimes children have behaviours which there appears to be no resolution to - like the child constantly muttering. This disturbs other people and where it might be acceptable at 8, it is certainly going to be frowned upon when he is 38. It is therefore reasonable to alter/ limit the behaviour where possible. I think you have got me wrong - it is very necessary to manage behaviour, increase independence and so on. To do it properly though, you have to understand the trigger of the behaviour.