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That Sunday night feeling

Discussion in 'Workplace dilemmas' started by 19sunflower, Feb 21, 2016.

  1. 19sunflower

    19sunflower New commenter

    Hi everyone,

    Is anyone else filled with dread on a Sunday evening? I've had this feeling for a while now and I'm not sure how to cope with it. My work-life balance isn't great, but once I get through Monday I usually feel a bit better. I have a few demanding students (ESL) but one the whole the other 20 or so are content. It's just the 4 difficult ones. The workload is quite heavy just now but I make sure to take Saturday afternoon off - I finish classes at 2pm - and most of Sunday. If I could, I'd prefer not to work Saturdays, but the timetable doesn't leave me with any other option. From September, I'm going to be much more strict and only offer groups.

    If anyone else gets this feeling, what do you do to cope?
     
  2. ld7675

    ld7675 Occasional commenter

    I cope by sharing as much as I can with other teachers, they then share resources with me. I'm lucky enough to work with a teacher in the same year group who also doesn't see the point in preparing identical resources for two classes when we are teaching the same thing so when we plan we agree who's going to prepare what resource - this effectively halves preparation time. I also make sure that I have one or two evenings of light workload, deep marking once or twice a week for lessons when other lessons that day aren't too marking heavy. I think not taking on too much is sensible - it will be a good idea not to offer too much from September if you feel you are being overworked and don't have to. I do an after school club just once a week and feel that even that can be a bit much when it leaves you with less evening time for marking time and preparation so am rethinking when to offer it in the future.

    The Sunday evening thing is normal for a lot of jobs, I think, but if you really aren't enjoying the job or not looking forward to going in often is it time to look elsewhere? Hope this is helpful.
     
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  3. eljefeb90

    eljefeb90 Senior commenter

    Your feeling of dread is very common, maybe even universal. I recently retired but I would stay late on Fridays and get everything set for Monday. Then I could try to properly switch off. I would always do something really energetic on a Sunday (usually cycling) so I was physically tired and had no problem getting off to sleep. Alcohol is a solution, but obviously not always a great idea!
     
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  4. MelanieSLB

    MelanieSLB New commenter

    I have that feeling right now. I have been on holidays for two weeks (that's France for you) and the next few weeks are so busy that I dread going back. I feel like I haven't really been able to switch off during the holidays (I finished my marking/prep at 3 pm this afternoon, and I haven't even done what I wanted to; partially teaching higher education meant higher education exams -50 test papers, each with 4 demanding different exercises- to mark during the holidays o_O). I'll be better when I go back tomorrow, and I realise why I like the job.
     
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  5. jumpingstar

    jumpingstar New commenter

    I think so many people have this.

    I am quite disciplined and try and do all my work in the weekday evenings - plus only allow my self to work to 8.30pm .. 9 at the absolute latest. If I do have work to do at the weekend I assess how crucial it is and only do the important stuff - and I try to have as many weekends with zero work as possible. If I do HAVE to work on a weekend I work just the Saturday morning and have the rest off.

    I think the key is just to say "I can do as much as my can but my life is important" A lot of staff at my school have got into the habit of telling the head that they need to have non contact time if they are asked to do something large on top of their day to day work load. They make it clear that if they are not given time they won't do the job. Of course it takes a strong character to do that but our head is pretty good at honouring that where possible. You'd be surprised at what will be adjusted if you ask, rather than just accept requests without standing for your free time.

    I am currently dreading tomorrow!
     
  6. Camokidmommy

    Camokidmommy Established commenter

    I like my job. However, as I am not working tomorrow for various reasons, I now realise how much of a cloud Monday morning is over my Sunday. I don't worry about my job, I like it, but do keep thinking about what lies ahead from about 4.00 on a Sunday.

    If I was in a school that made me feel less than valued, where behaviour was an issue and SLT were the kind that tormented others I know I would positively dread Mondays. How do I know that? Because I have been there too!
     
  7. joannagb

    joannagb Occasional commenter

    For the last 13 years, ever since I've known him, my husband has slept incredibly badly for the last two nights of any holiday or half term. He talks in his sleep, kicks and occasionally cries - really not the way that he is at any other time, only the last two nights of the holidays, it's all about how much pressure he feels at work. Weirdly, he doesn't often feel the pressure from above - they put it on, but he usually manages to shrug it off, for him it's all about his department (he's a Head of Department) and the kids - he is totally desperate not to let anyone down. Bless.

    I, on the other hand, used to have to keep my make up in my desk drawer because I cried all the way to work... It's a huge spectrum from "generally a bit anxious to get it right" to full on WRS, just keep an eye on whereabouts you are on the spectrum!

    btw it also sounds like you've identified the problem with the 4 ESL kids, is there a specialist who is advising you or can advise you? It sounds like once you've got that sorted then things might pick up.
     
  8. scienceteachasghost

    scienceteachasghost Lead commenter

    That 'back to school' feeling is not just confined to the kids! When a teacher myself, I used to get mild-moderate 'Sunday night feeling.' When it is the last day of a holiday, it is worse and can even feel crushing and like heartbreak! What makes it worse of course is everyone outwardly (including yourself perhaps!) will appear cheerful on Monday Morning while internally going Oh ***********!

    There are certainly tropes that really don't help! The Antiques Roadshow theme tune drips with that 'Have you planned all your lessons, marked all your books and polished your work shoes' vibe. And any 'seriousish' drama on BBC1 at 9pm Sunday Night is classic 'hashtag tomorrow's Monday and you better go to bed after this' territory!

    There are certain thigs that may or may not help. Even in the low stress job I do at present (ie. not teaching!) I like some 'alone time' with the door locked and chained Sunday Evening. A freind of mine found the opposite - a Sunday evening trip to the cinema would take his mind off the week ahead.

    Even though the job really IS as long as a piece of string - the worst thing do do I have found from experience is procrastinate on any work to be done all day Sunday and stay indoors - that way you will feel stressed and knowing you need to do a couple of hours planning/marking Sunday evening (or worse 4am Monday morning!) Ideally one would not have to do any work at weekend - in reality if you can I would do it Saturday and have Sunday free to go on a long walk etc - although my default planning day was Sunday as I always had Saturday as a 'me' day.

    Interestingly I found the 'Sunday evening feeling' often peaks around this time of year - the energy and honeymoon period of September has long gone - exam pressures are coming on strong now and the weather has not yet gone into Spring/Summer mode - its amazing how a hot sunny day and a light evening can severely quell a Sunday night feeling!

    Think of it like this - less than 5 weeks until Easter!
     
  9. sebedina

    sebedina Occasional commenter

    I am only doing a long term supply role, but still feel the same "blues" a little the sunday before the monday back. Last night I dreamt that I was at school and had 3 handbags and other bags that I was carrying around, in my dream I was late for my lesson and couldn't find my memory stick. It was full of anxiety and worry. Then Harrison Ford turns up (apparently a senior person) telling me that I should be in another classroom and the children are waiting and i was 20 minutes late to class! All bizarre.
     
  10. slingshotsally

    slingshotsally Star commenter

    I have had this feeling every evening and morning since January.

    I fear for my livelihood.

    SSS
     
  11. Marisha

    Marisha Established commenter

    I've been in the job over 30 years, and get it all the time.

    I'm trying to keep my weekends free these days. It's amazing how serious illness in the family concentrates the mind.

    I tell younger teachers to try not to give everything to the job - we are supposed to be entitled to a life.
     
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