Using "I realise" does make it seem as though you had come to understand something as fact. If that's not what you meant you should at least be able to see the reasons others might have understood it that way. I think most people exhibit mild symptoms of just about everything - sometimes I'm happy for no reason and sometimes I'm a bit down but that doesn't mean I'm bi-polar. I've quite often got a runny nose but that doesn't mean I have a cold every time I blow it. I thought you started the thread looking for discussion of working with autistic children and young people? Is discussing the nature of autism not part of that?