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Teacher alcoholism

Discussion in 'Personal' started by CheeseMongler, Nov 16, 2018.

  1. CheeseMongler

    CheeseMongler Lead commenter

    As I sit here, happily drinking away the stresses of the week, I wonder how dangerous and unique this attitude is. I'm not fearful of addiction and am fully aware of the health impacts. I'm more concerned with the general mental health picture. I'm fairly certain that tonight I will continue drinking until I have just enough sobriety to manage to get to bed and no more; I do pretty much every Friday.
    I'm also fairly certain that I only do this to block out as much of the last week at work as I can - so I can enjoy my weekend. Thoughts?
     
  2. A_Million_Posts

    A_Million_Posts Star commenter

    It sounds very unhealthy, verging on addiction and is probably very common.
     
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  3. Dragonlady30

    Dragonlady30 Star commenter

    You are not alone.

    Just maintain awareness.
     
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  4. Jude Fawley

    Jude Fawley Star commenter

    Not an issue for me.

    No kids, no alcoholism, no relationship so no relationship problems, no work problems so, there's so little I can say on the TES forum these days.
     
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  5. scienceteachasghost

    scienceteachasghost Lead commenter

    A lot depends on the context.

    Drinking high volumes of alcohol alone can be seen as more of a problem than with a partner or friends say.

    If you drink say a bottle of wine Friday night and nothing for the rest of the week thats probably not too bad. If you drink several drinks every night and get blotto Friday by having several then several more thats different.

    Add up your weekly units, the Govt now say 14 units per week for both men and women is the 'maximum?' (although I reckon many people can exceed this in one big night out!)

    Can totally see this is a good way to relax/unwind (I sit writing this with a can of cider on the go!) but if it is your only effective way to unwind (and I personally find using alcohol to destress rebounds when sobering up in the early hours) it might be alcoholic. Try a long walk (not easy in the dark months granted) or the gym or cinema or a good book maybe as non or less alcoholic alternatives?
     
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  6. Aquamarina1234

    Aquamarina1234 Star commenter

    I drink a whole bottle of wine every Friday night. I am rat-faced when I go to bed. The sharp-eyed will have noted the deterioration in my typing no doubt :)
    It's a custom that commenced when my children were old enough to understand that Mum's had a hard week and this is her Unwind; and since you're both off out to get hammered yourselves, don't think you've a leg(less) to stand on.

    It's the only night I drink so my liver's got a week to get over it. I don't even meaningfully work anymore so it is indeed a habit, but if something gets in the way e.g. I have to take my car in early tomorrow for its MOT, I'm not bothered. I just move wine night to Saturday!:D

    Edit: just seen the above post. You offer as an alternative A LONG WALK? The gym??? It's enough to drive me to drink!
     
  7. Aquamarina1234

    Aquamarina1234 Star commenter

    Actually I don't know why I'm making light of it. I can think of 2 teachers at my school who are only in their 40s and well-known for "liking a drink" and having the occasional Monday off. I'm pretty sure Someone is only waiting for them to smell of Benylin before stabbing them in the back.
     
  8. sbkrobson

    sbkrobson Star commenter

    I'll argue two out of three on that-I mean, it really is not unhealthy and it takes way more than a regular Friday binge to constitute addiction. However, you are absolutely right-it is common as muck.
    **hic**
     
  9. needabreak

    needabreak Star commenter

    Oh dear. It sounds familiar from my distant past, systematic of my inability at the time to actually separate my working life from life more widely and not really making an effort to nurture a life more widely as it felt like more hard work... and getting out without your young children in tow as a single parent is quite a task.

    That said not looking after me took it's toll, I needed a wake up call and got a near death alarm... something had to change to ensure I was here for those children and self pity was not on the agenda. We are responsible adults and cannot be responsible teachers if we can't even take care of ourselves.

    Upshot? Been there done that got the t-shirt, so feel safe to advise that if your drinking is concerning you, do something about it, ditto any health condition or addiction.
     
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  10. magic surf bus

    magic surf bus Star commenter

    I realised that Carlsberg Special Brew wasn't the wisest method of relaxation from teaching one night when I opened a tin at the start of NYPD Blue, and found myself opening my third tin just before the final advert break. Although I've never been alcohol dependent I stopped drinking the stuff altogether after that.

    When a family member was treated for alcohol dependency I stopped drinking altogether for the best part of a year as a form of moral support. It takes a few weeks to notice the difference, but difference there was, and positive too. The other thing you notice when not drinking is just how much direct and indirect pressure society places on you to drink, as if it's the default setting. Small wonder alcoholics struggle - they're bombarded by it from the first time the TV or radio goes on to the last thing they see or hear before turning in.

    I have an old friend with whom I got back in touch a couple of years ago, and found out that drink had wrecked a fair bit of the middle part of his life. In his 50s and finally sober he was only just getting back on speaking terms with his son. It's a terrible price to pay.

    Nowadays I only imbibe intermittently and rarely if ever exceed half a bottle of wine or a couple of bottles of medium strength beer at the most, usually less - I'm not a student any more and I value my sleep too much.
     
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  11. Jude Fawley

    Jude Fawley Star commenter

    Jude the penitent: This thread is going to be like The Admiral's Arms meets The Methodist hall.
     
  12. needabreak

    needabreak Star commenter

    It just opens itself up to it really.

    My name is NAB and I was nearly alcohol dependent to get through the days...


    ... then I got a life.

    Edit
     
  13. install

    install Star commenter

    Gotta say I have come across some headteacher types (not all) who seem to like alcohol alot . It seems to be part and parcel of a mode of behaviour for some ....
     
  14. nomad

    nomad Star commenter

    Pressures of the job. :(
     
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  15. chelsea2

    chelsea2 Star commenter

    Latter years of teaching, I'd drink 2 or 3 (large) glasses of wine per night, just to get through the incessant marking: "I'll mark 6 books and have a mouthful....I'll mark 5 books and have a mouthful....I'll mark 4....." You get the picture? By my third set of books that night, I'd be on my third glass.

    Now I'm retired, I never drink more than one glass a night (unless I'm socialising with friends), and often go several nights without even that.

    Most Methodists are no longer abstainers! ;)
     
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  16. peakster

    peakster Star commenter

    We had a supply teacher in our department who was an alcoholic - he would drink at lunchtimes and would be pretty much rat-***** all afternoon. He would then drive home. He died a few months after he left us.

    At a previous school I would go out after school on Friday with a bunch of colleagues - I don't drink (I get very ill after only a couple of drinks) but they would get absolutely smashed by the time I left them.

    In my current school I once found a bottle of spirits (and a glass) in the cupboard of one of the teacher- I never said anything and the teacher concerned doesn't know.

    I think it can be a real problem - drinking to forget suggests a lot of unhappiness somewhere.
     
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  17. Dunteachin

    Dunteachin Star commenter

    A bottle of wine on a Friday night and nothing else all week?
    And you're worried? You're not even on the same planet as an alcoholic, never mind the same ballpark.

    I wouldn't worry. At all.
     
  18. JohnJCazorla

    JohnJCazorla Star commenter

    A few years ago I ran into a fellow teacher in the nearby supermarket. I say ran into him because I blocked the route of his trolley and he collided directly with me. He apologised because he was busy looking at a set of class pictures and trying to put names to faces.

    When I gave the lame joke about no alcohol in with the weekly shop he explained that he didn't have the spare time to drink. This was/is a highly respected teacher who I'd seen in action many times and was a diligent second in Dept.

    I still cry (into my glass of beer) when I think of this.
     
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  19. Summerhols6

    Summerhols6 Occasional commenter

    A friend of mine was in Arizona, visiting relatives and family (in the 90's)and a relative had been put into rehab. In rehab 'the relative' met James Brolins son (actor from the 80s, who some thought as a future James Bond, despite being American). I said, was alcohol a problem in the US, to which he replied, 'no, they think that anyone who has a couple of pints has a problem'! No judgement here, just goes to show that addiction can affect everyone.
     
  20. Duke of York

    Duke of York Star commenter

    I'm intrigued by the thread title. Is there a suggestion that teaching leads to alcoholism more than any other career? Is there a suggestion that teaching and alcohol really don't mix, but it's less of an issue in other occupations?

    Am I to imagine that when I see someone loading their trolley up with gin and ask which school they work in, they will panic at being caught buying alcohol?

    Did there ought to be alcohol awareness courses as part of inset?

    Actually, I reckon such courses would be far more interesting and useful than anything else I've heard teachers talk about in regard to their inset days.
     
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