A few years ago, I 'befriended' another teacher in my Dept. She later left to do a similar job in another school nearby. I know she found the school very difficult ( it is but others have worked there and coped with it! ) and she was contantly calling me to tell me what a terrible day/week/lesson she'd had or because she wanted something for work etc. I'm not really a morning person but I frequently got calls requesting something or other! She used to get quite annoyed when others didn't get back to her straight away with things she requested.Even when we met outside school after meetings etc,all she could talk about was work! I always listened and offered advice whenever I could and rarely looked for advice myself, ever. She knew the people in my dept and how difficult they could be, especially the HOD. Fast forward to a little while ago and I found I desperately needed help with a situation at work ( I hadn't done anything wrong ) but was effectively being stitched up by the HOD! This teacher's older and more experienced than me so I asked for help with writing a letter, that's all. I couldn't believe the reception I got ( having listened during the first part of the conversation to her own problems once again-there's always something! ) Firstly she referred me to the union ( fair enough I could understand that but as it turned out the rep was useless! ) then she proceeded to tell me in a very indignant manner how she wanted to 'forget all about that' - she's recently left the school and borough in question and was off at that time, she didn't wish to listen to this on a Friday night! ,So I was left in no doubt at all that she was totally unwilling to help me with a situation that even she knew could have serious consequences for me! She very reluctantly agreed to have a look at the letter in the next few day, which of course she never did! She knew I was very worried about things! I really cannot understand how mean and self-absorbed some people can be. I actually feel quite 'used' over the years I knew her and now she doesn't need me any more! Thankfully I have other good friends who helped me out with the situation, all in all a very stressful business!