Mr L is doing my ed in. It's either got very much worse in the last two years or it's because I no longer take the antidepressants that used to knock me out flat. I certainly became more aware of it when I was awake a lot in the night with hot flushes, and I'm amazed he gets any rest at all. He also stops breathing completely for up to ten seconds, which is a bit alarming. I usually shove him if I notice and he starts again - presumably he starts again anyway or he would be errrr.... dead It wakes us both up several times a night. He's tired a lot suring the day but keeps saying it's because he's so busy at work. He doesn't have any risk factors like weight problems or smoking. He won't see a doctor ("no wonder the NHS is broke") so I put it to him this morning that I should sort out the spare room and move in there during the week because I am so unrested in the morning and tired at work. It got roughly the same reception as if I'd suggested I move into the spare room because this marriage is over. A colleague has suggested a nasal spray - Beconase or similar - and I have one i haven;t opened yet. I think he might be persuaded to try that. Has anyone had any luck with it?