Hello tessers As a stay at home mum, I think my sense of perspective/proportion can be a little out of sync at times, so please let me know if you think I'm being neurotic! Two of my daughters started at a new school today, one in P1 (age 5) and the other in P6 (age 10). For some unknown reason this change has given me a feeling of anxiety, perhaps a subconscious fear due to my own primary school days - even as a child, I disliked change and my primary school days weren't the happiest of my life. Anyway, I in no way passed this on to my daughters who were this morning both very happy, enthusiastic and excited to start at their new school The day passed very well for them both, but there is something niggling me about my 10 year old's first day. Prior to the summer holiday, each new parent was given a class list of all the names and telephone numbers of the children in their new class (it's a private school - not sure if this would ever happen in state!), in the hope that kids could meet up over the holidays and have some familiar faces for starting school. We ended up having a girl called L come round to play. It went very well on the whole but I doubted that M (my daughter) and L would become firm friends, which is absolutely fine. L's mother reciprocated and M went round there one day for a few hours, along with some other girls from the class. Again, it went really well but M had to politely ask the other girls to stop when they started slagging off one of the boys who was to be joining their class. He's a nice (albeit geeky!) kid and I was quite proud of her for defending him when she hardly knows these girls! Anyway, during M's first day today, L completely ignored her when M tried to talk to her. Totally blanked her. M also saw her whispering to other girls about her. I know this sounds totally trivial from an adult point of view, but this can't have felt pleasant to a 10 year old on her first day at school! Girls will be girls (and as a mother of 3, I KNOW how they can be!) and I would accept it a bit further down the line, but not on the first day. This girl has been at the school since nursery so should have known better than to do this to a newbie. M is a genuinely nice kid, folks. She's polite, quiet, well-behaved, good sense of what's fair and what's not, etc. I would rather this was nipped in the bud early on, and I know that the school is very keen for problems to be shared and resolved quickly. Would it be completely over the top of me to mention it to M's teacher? I really liked L's mother and it's tempting to have a friendly word in passing, but it's much too soon for that kind of thing! Last thing I want to do is come across as the overprotective mother type and tbh, M doesn't seem too phased by the whole thing and has made other friends. I just wouldn't want the situation to escalate though. It's also a bit unfortunate that L's best friend was chosen as M's 'buddy'. Many thanks - I know you lot will keep me right! ps, is it just me who worries more about their firstborn than any of the others?!