There is no excuse for violence. None at all. When my father beat up my mother, I resented my mother because she used to excuse his violence. My disgust was misguided, of course. My mother had lots of support from family but wouldn't leave my father as a consequence of finance, shame and children. In the end, she did leave him but not until I was in my early twenties. I resent and hate my father for this and haven't seen or spoken to him for several years. Although many years ago, I cannot dissolve the memories of my father's actions and the bleak situation for my mother. They stay with me and will forever.