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Sad and personal from my students...

Discussion in 'Personal' started by teachingking123, Oct 26, 2015.

  1. teachingking123

    teachingking123 Established commenter

    Is it me or are students always coming to me with personal worries I know that is my job to be there for them but some of the things they say are upsetting which makes me upset.:(
  2. Findlotte

    Findlotte Established commenter

    I guess it's nice that they see you as approachable and trustworthy and feel you're able to offer help without judging them.
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  3. teachingking123

    teachingking123 Established commenter

    I know but some of the stuff is just upsetting.
  4. bombaysapphire

    bombaysapphire Star commenter

    If what they are telling you is upsetting then should you be passing it on to your child protection officer?
  5. Lascarina

    Lascarina Star commenter

    We all have our cross to bear, 123.
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  6. grumpydogwoman

    grumpydogwoman Star commenter


    It certainly isn't true of every teacher that students habitually discuss their worries. I'd say it's your job to direct them to an appropriate source of help. Certainly.

    It depends what you mean by 'be there for them'. In some cases you absolutely should not deal with such matters on your own. You do need to acquaint yourself with safeguarding policies etc etc.

    No use getting upset though. That helps nobody.
  7. Findlotte

    Findlotte Established commenter

    You're human, help them the best you can (Y)
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  8. Morninglover

    Morninglover Star commenter

    Make sure you know your school policies back to front, esp. those regarding Child Protection issues and,if relevant, the ones recently emphasised on FGM & radicalisation. These place a legal burden on all teachers....
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  9. teachingking123

    teachingking123 Established commenter

    I help them all. In fact it kind of makes me feel better sorting it out. I do pass this on the the child protection officer as I record their comments.
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  10. midnight_angel

    midnight_angel Senior commenter

    I don't mean to sound harsh, but this seems to very much be a thread of "Oh look at me, I'm such a caring and wonderful teacher that all my students come to me with all their personal issues".
    Do you want us all to praise and applaud you for actually doing your job and following through safeguarding procedures? Hate to tell you this, but you're not the only one students go to for help. We deal with it, follow through with procedures, and try not to let it consume us/upset us, even though in the most severe cases. We do worry about the students.

    (That probably sounded harsher than I intended - I've obviously woken up from my afternoon nappy groggy and grumpy.)
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  11. Memphismojo

    Memphismojo Established commenter

    Try and take comfort from the fact that they trust you enough to tell you what's on their mind.
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  12. Dunteachin

    Dunteachin Star commenter

    Er, a tad harsh, midnight angel :eek:
  13. Dunteachin

    Dunteachin Star commenter

    Afternoon nappy?? :eek::confused:
  14. teachingking123

    teachingking123 Established commenter

    Actually that was quite harsh. Isn't this the personal form were we talk about issues effecting us!?:eek:
  15. Rhoswen77

    Rhoswen77 Established commenter

    It used to be the place where certain types of posters spent amounts of time discussing all sorts of personal issues affecting them...
  16. Rhoswen77

    Rhoswen77 Established commenter

    But each to... etc
  17. harsh-but-fair

    harsh-but-fair Star commenter

    Yes, you know ...
  18. Lascarina

    Lascarina Star commenter

    123, it is affecting me adversely that you are confusing 'where' and 'were' and 'affect' and 'effect'. I know that's probably petty of me but it's making me sad.
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  19. teachingking123

    teachingking123 Established commenter

    Sorry Lascarina! I am not good at spelling.
  20. Rhoswen77

    Rhoswen77 Established commenter

    Thank goodness you have standards. It has made me sad too.

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