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Ruled by Boarding School Survivors

Discussion in 'Independent' started by Richard Knights, Jan 12, 2011.


  1. What
    does the Cabinet know about the lives of ordinary people? The
    majority are millionaires, two thirds of them were educated at public
    schools (attended by only 7% of pupils); the queues at hospitals are
    bypassed courtesy of Bupa; as for social housing, no need for that,
    there's the inherited mansion; public transport is, as Margaret
    Thatcher commented, 'for life's failures'; they never frequent
    council run leisure centres; lending a book from a library is unheard
    of and I'm sure that none of their friends or relatives have ever had
    to live on welfare benefits.



    Eighteen
    out of the twenty eight members of the Cabinet attended public
    schools and in the main it's a roll call of the most expensive and
    exclusive. Fees tend to be around £28,000 per year for boarders and
    at least nine of the Cabinet were boarders. To put that in
    perspective, the average wage is around £24,000, so to pay for a
    year's boarding school you would need to receive around £45,000
    before tax. Or to put it bluntly, only the super-rich could afford to
    send their children to Eton, Harrow, Charterhouse, etc.



    According
    to the Independent Schools' Council (ISC) only 13% of their 508,234
    pupils are boarders, however, in the Headmasters' and Headmistresses'
    Conference (HMC) schools the percentage is 20% and at the age of 16
    the percentage for ISC schools is 30%. Also most of the really
    expensive and exclusive schools are overwhelmingly boarding – Eton,
    Charterhouse, Wellington, Harrow, Rugby, Cheltenham Ladies' College.



    According
    to the ISC 8,000 children under the age of the 11 are boarders. David
    Cameron was sent away at the age of seven to Heatherdown Prep School
    and from there to Eton.



    Many of
    the most exclusive schools are single-sex, or only admit girls in the
    sixth form – Eton, Rugby, Harrow. It's interesting to note that
    this kind of environment – single sex, living away from your family
    at an early age – has not been extensively analysed or
    investigated. Royston Lambert conducted extensive interviews with
    pupils in 1968, Joy Schaverin wrote 'Boarding school: the trauma of
    the 'privileged' child' in 2004 and there has been the work of Nick
    Duffell with the Boarding School Survivors.



    A
    boarding school education involves a rupture in their attachment to
    their mother which can lead to a distrust of women. The worst
    features of male sexuality are often developed – detachment,
    obsessionality, alternately idealising and devaluing women and
    misogyny. As a result young boys can be impeded in their progress
    towards manhood and they may find it difficult to form meaningful
    relationships. Attachments to siblings are disrupted and family is
    replaced by many, same sex strangers.




    In a
    boarding school pupils will have to negotiate the archaic codes,
    language and dress. Eton is still run by the school boy members of
    'Pop' who are allowed to wear spongebag trousers and their own
    waistcoats. Other schools still have bizarre rules about how many
    buttons you can undo on your waist coat.



    The
    English boarding school tradition is to inculcate conformity and
    unquestioning loyalty, for stoicism as opposed to emotion and
    humanity. There are those contradictions – modesty and courtesy
    opposed to icy formality; kindness against derisiveness and fair play
    compared to contempt for 'outsiders'.



    Many
    children at boarding schools have an overwhelmingly feeling of
    abandonment, of loneliness and isolation. Child rearing is left to
    nannies and the school matron. As they grow up their peer group
    imposes conditions of belonging and in some instances this may
    include conformity and bullying. As they reach puberty identity and
    belonging is identified with a group outside of the family unit.



    Some
    children exhibit a 'survivor mentality', a sense of shame at being
    privileged, their parents have made sacrifices, it is for 'their own
    good', they may feel like ungrateful failures. In response they
    construct a 'false self' due to extreme psychic wounding. They may
    become completely institutionalised where they cannot function
    outside of a closed environment. In that sense Oxbridge, the Army,
    the Civil Service, the City or the Gentlemen's Club may serve as an
    extension of their boarding school experiences. They have no sense of
    the world outside.



    There
    was an interesting article in 'The Times' on September 14, 2007 it
    was entitled 'What were their parents thinking?', it was written by
    Julia Noakes who has worked as a psychologist in the City of London
    for thirteen years. She noted that a fifth of her 500 clients had
    attended boarding school. Being sent away at an early age often bred
    'distrust of women and a fragile, insecure sense of sexual
    orientation'. Some of her clients felt that they had been abandoned
    by their mothers, this rupture of early attachments led to a deep
    distrust of loving relationships.




    Boarding
    school does prepare children to be part of a self-perpetuating elite,
    it helps them to foster those all important networks and
    acquaintances that will help them to navigate their way through
    medicine, the legal profession, the media. A vital introduction into
    many careers is through unpaid internships and the Old Boys' and Old
    Girls' Associations are an excellent conduit for these positions.



    The
    English ruling class don't expect to suffer any check, control or
    questioning on their actions or decisions. It's startling to observe
    the arrogance and disdain as bonuses for bankers are questioned or
    the kind of contempt that surrounded the issue of MPs' expenses –
    Duck houses? Cleaning the moat?



    So we
    are left with that part of the unreconstructed ruling elite –
    repressed, emotionally stunted and unable or unwilling to consider
    other people's lives away from their enclosed cosseted environment.




    http://abolishpublicschools.blogspot.com/2011/01/ruled-by-boarding-school-survivors.html
     

  2. What
    does the Cabinet know about the lives of ordinary people? The
    majority are millionaires, two thirds of them were educated at public
    schools (attended by only 7% of pupils); the queues at hospitals are
    bypassed courtesy of Bupa; as for social housing, no need for that,
    there's the inherited mansion; public transport is, as Margaret
    Thatcher commented, 'for life's failures'; they never frequent
    council run leisure centres; lending a book from a library is unheard
    of and I'm sure that none of their friends or relatives have ever had
    to live on welfare benefits.



    Eighteen
    out of the twenty eight members of the Cabinet attended public
    schools and in the main it's a roll call of the most expensive and
    exclusive. Fees tend to be around £28,000 per year for boarders and
    at least nine of the Cabinet were boarders. To put that in
    perspective, the average wage is around £24,000, so to pay for a
    year's boarding school you would need to receive around £45,000
    before tax. Or to put it bluntly, only the super-rich could afford to
    send their children to Eton, Harrow, Charterhouse, etc.



    According
    to the Independent Schools' Council (ISC) only 13% of their 508,234
    pupils are boarders, however, in the Headmasters' and Headmistresses'
    Conference (HMC) schools the percentage is 20% and at the age of 16
    the percentage for ISC schools is 30%. Also most of the really
    expensive and exclusive schools are overwhelmingly boarding – Eton,
    Charterhouse, Wellington, Harrow, Rugby, Cheltenham Ladies' College.



    According
    to the ISC 8,000 children under the age of the 11 are boarders. David
    Cameron was sent away at the age of seven to Heatherdown Prep School
    and from there to Eton.



    Many of
    the most exclusive schools are single-sex, or only admit girls in the
    sixth form – Eton, Rugby, Harrow. It's interesting to note that
    this kind of environment – single sex, living away from your family
    at an early age – has not been extensively analysed or
    investigated. Royston Lambert conducted extensive interviews with
    pupils in 1968, Joy Schaverin wrote 'Boarding school: the trauma of
    the 'privileged' child' in 2004 and there has been the work of Nick
    Duffell with the Boarding School Survivors.



    A
    boarding school education involves a rupture in their attachment to
    their mother which can lead to a distrust of women. The worst
    features of male sexuality are often developed – detachment,
    obsessionality, alternately idealising and devaluing women and
    misogyny. As a result young boys can be impeded in their progress
    towards manhood and they may find it difficult to form meaningful
    relationships. Attachments to siblings are disrupted and family is
    replaced by many, same sex strangers.




    In a
    boarding school pupils will have to negotiate the archaic codes,
    language and dress. Eton is still run by the school boy members of
    'Pop' who are allowed to wear spongebag trousers and their own
    waistcoats. Other schools still have bizarre rules about how many
    buttons you can undo on your waist coat.



    The
    English boarding school tradition is to inculcate conformity and
    unquestioning loyalty, for stoicism as opposed to emotion and
    humanity. There are those contradictions – modesty and courtesy
    opposed to icy formality; kindness against derisiveness and fair play
    compared to contempt for 'outsiders'.



    Many
    children at boarding schools have an overwhelmingly feeling of
    abandonment, of loneliness and isolation. Child rearing is left to
    nannies and the school matron. As they grow up their peer group
    imposes conditions of belonging and in some instances this may
    include conformity and bullying. As they reach puberty identity and
    belonging is identified with a group outside of the family unit.



    Some
    children exhibit a 'survivor mentality', a sense of shame at being
    privileged, their parents have made sacrifices, it is for 'their own
    good', they may feel like ungrateful failures. In response they
    construct a 'false self' due to extreme psychic wounding. They may
    become completely institutionalised where they cannot function
    outside of a closed environment. In that sense Oxbridge, the Army,
    the Civil Service, the City or the Gentlemen's Club may serve as an
    extension of their boarding school experiences. They have no sense of
    the world outside.



    There
    was an interesting article in 'The Times' on September 14, 2007 it
    was entitled 'What were their parents thinking?', it was written by
    Julia Noakes who has worked as a psychologist in the City of London
    for thirteen years. She noted that a fifth of her 500 clients had
    attended boarding school. Being sent away at an early age often bred
    'distrust of women and a fragile, insecure sense of sexual
    orientation'. Some of her clients felt that they had been abandoned
    by their mothers, this rupture of early attachments led to a deep
    distrust of loving relationships.




    Boarding
    school does prepare children to be part of a self-perpetuating elite,
    it helps them to foster those all important networks and
    acquaintances that will help them to navigate their way through
    medicine, the legal profession, the media. A vital introduction into
    many careers is through unpaid internships and the Old Boys' and Old
    Girls' Associations are an excellent conduit for these positions.



    The
    English ruling class don't expect to suffer any check, control or
    questioning on their actions or decisions. It's startling to observe
    the arrogance and disdain as bonuses for bankers are questioned or
    the kind of contempt that surrounded the issue of MPs' expenses –
    Duck houses? Cleaning the moat?



    So we
    are left with that part of the unreconstructed ruling elite –
    repressed, emotionally stunted and unable or unwilling to consider
    other people's lives away from their enclosed cosseted environment.




    http://abolishpublicschools.blogspot.com/2011/01/ruled-by-boarding-school-survivors.html
     
  3. What a small world, you taught me in primary school. I struggle to understand why you are opposed to independent education though. Why should education be monopolised by the state?
     

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