I've been with my boyfriend for three years. For a year and a half he has been working away out of choice. In October 2009 he completed nearly 4 months, this time last year he completed 9 months, he is now back there having been there over four months this time. It's always been hard for me because when we meet he had a well paid job in this country, however he decided to throw it all in order to better himself, which I admire him for. For the last 4 months we have argued constantly resulting in both of us at one point or another saying lets just leave it however the love is so strong between us that we end up trying again. I've told him that I really don't want a long distant relationship a moment longer and he is now saying he will come home. The thing is I feel terribly guilty that I've gave him that ultimatum, that i'm forcing him to give up something he enjoys. I would much rather he came home on his own accord or if things came to a natural end as I really believe that it will only put strain on the relationship once he is back here because he won't have a job, therefore no money or a car, I feel he'll compare and wish he was back there. Will it work or is it time to set hime free??