Some of you may remember my background story which is that my boyfriend of two years has massive commitment issues centered around the very painful collapse of his last relationship/life and we have reached a brick wall where I want o move on with him and he's terrified of taking the next steps. Today he is seeing a counsellor about it for the first time because he says he wants to talk about it and be able to move on as well. He is coming round to mine afterwards for lunch and the rest of the weekend (I hope, but if it's upset him I imagine he will want time alone as he tends to work through things in a solitary way.) I am planning on lighting the fire, making him some nice food, tea and cake and just being as warm and relaxing as I can make the rest of his day. I went to counselling years ago and remember feeling very wobbly after my sessions. In fact I think I only made it three times before I couldn't bear it anymore as I found it so hard feeling so vulnerable afterwards and having no-one to come home to, which made it worse. Does anyone have any experience of how to support a partner through counselling? I want to be caring but not suffocating. I also am trying very hard not to let my feelings of anxiety and loneliness (because he's become so wuthdrawn and introspective) add to his pressure/worries. I think it would be useful for me to receive some ideas, hear what others have gone through so I can be prepared and bolstered.