<font face="Times New Roman" size="3"> Apologies for a very long post We have a 27mth old toddler and a 12wk old baby and Sunday went like this - Morning at country park together but had to leave to get home in time for the football match on the TV! 1pm - 6pm Me Shop in Asda Breast feed baby Prepare snack for toddler Hang out washing Load dishwasher Clean kitchen Change 2 dirty nappies Mop kitchen floor Prepare roast chicken Paint pictures with toddler while Bfing baby again Prepare roast potatoes and vegetables Clean up mess from painting BF baby</font>OH Watch football match Surf internet Dish up dinner 3wks after LO1 was born OH was made redundant and chose to take 3mths off to be at home with us. After 3mths he said he wanted another 3mths and then after 6mths he said he didn't see why he should go to work if I got to stay at home! This meant I then had to use my savings to continue maternity leave until LO was 10mths old. OH still hadn't looked for work so I had to go back full time at Easter and he stayed at home with LO and spent a lot of time on his games console. By May I was loudly suggesting he should be job hunting as he could start as soon as my summer hols started. He kept insisting it was too early if he couldn't start until mid July. Last Sept, LO started nursery on my school site, full time. We left at 7.30 each morning and OH went back to bed. He spent 3mths thinking about setting up his own business and then in Jan (when I was 4mths pregnant) he started job hunting. He eventually got a job 7 mths later and started when the new baby was 6wks old. I can't help feeling that he took his job hunting more seriously when he realised how much harder it would be for him to stay at home. Now his moods are horrendous and I am fed up with him flying off the handle over nothing. He takes it out on the toddler who is regularly told to ‘shut the f*** up' when he is wanting a bit of attention. He is loudly telling me that a colleague plays no part in the care of the children or house as he works. I haven't yet pointed out that while he was unemployed I was still doing 80% of the childcare, a lot of the housework and getting up at 6am on a Sat with LO so he could stay in bed until 11am. All this and heavily pregnant! I am seriously considering going to stay with my Mum for a few weeks which his 250miles away in the hope that it will be a bit of a wake up call for him. Has anyone else been in a similar situation and if so, how did you resolve the problems?