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Putting on weight

Discussion in 'Health and wellbeing' started by izzyf, Mar 5, 2011.

  1. I'm so worried, I've gained nearly a stone since the start of february and I feel just awful.
    None of my clothes fit properly and even my pajamas feel a bit tight and I'm constantly pulling tops down during the day. I feel absolutely massive.
    The reason i'm posting is because I know that i've been massively comfort eating, and this is what has resulted in the weight gain .... but I can't seem to stop it and it's upsetting me so much, I can't understand why I keep doing something which makes me miserable but I do.
    has anyone ever had something similar?
    I eat well and healthily during the day then in the evening binge eat on biscuits and sweets and cakes and go to bed feeling sick, hating myself and telling myself i won't do it again then i do! I wish i understood why.
     
  2. I'm so worried, I've gained nearly a stone since the start of february and I feel just awful.
    None of my clothes fit properly and even my pajamas feel a bit tight and I'm constantly pulling tops down during the day. I feel absolutely massive.
    The reason i'm posting is because I know that i've been massively comfort eating, and this is what has resulted in the weight gain .... but I can't seem to stop it and it's upsetting me so much, I can't understand why I keep doing something which makes me miserable but I do.
    has anyone ever had something similar?
    I eat well and healthily during the day then in the evening binge eat on biscuits and sweets and cakes and go to bed feeling sick, hating myself and telling myself i won't do it again then i do! I wish i understood why.
     
  3. you are stuck in the cycle of comfort eating, hating yourself for it, so comfort eating some more.
    Could you try keeping a food diary for a while to look for any patterns? For a start I would get rid of all the biscuits, sweets and cakes in the house. If they aren't there you can't eat them.
     
  4. I never keep them in the house, I go out and buy them (I know it's stupid) and keep a food diary, the pattern is pretty much as above, breakfast lunch evening meal all normal then huge amounts of food after 8 pm, I hate myself for it and know how stupid it is but can't seem to stop, I just wish i knew why I do this and how to stop.
     
  5. Do you record in your food diary the emotion you are feeling before and after? I found with my comfort eating that there was a definite trigger point for it. It then took a lot of willpower and organisation to stop it.
    I plan a week of eating in advance, buy only that food and stick to the plan rigidly.
     
  6. Forgot to add....I also had to find new ways to respond to and cope with my emotional triggers.
     
  7. The underlying problem needs to be identified frst. The binge-eating is just the symptom of it. Do you know why you need to comfort yourself with food (at least it's not alcohol)? Has something happened recently to make you unhappy? Is this the way you always respond to upset? Are you an all-or-nothing kinda gal? If for some reason you didn't start the scoffing, would you be more in control?
    If you don't know you maybe need some help via therapy or counselling to help you identify it. Tell your GP; make it clear that it's out of your control (or some will just tell you to brcae up and stop stuffing your face) and maybe even consider antidepressant meds so you feel less in need of comfort via food. SSRIs made me completely lose my appetite but that wasn't at the time a consideration.
     
  8. Poor izzy, I do feel for you. I was a comfort eater for many, many years and very overweight for all of those years too.
    I'm afraid there is no easy answer to stopping. You really have to want to stop. This finally happened to me at the beginning of February. I don't want to look like this any more and I don't want to go into old age as a blimp. Just as PFF says, it takes iron discipline and willpower, it is not easy and I am aware that I could relapse any time. If I do, I shall accept the fact and just move on. Knowing why you feel the need for comfort eating is important. Once those triggers have been identified you can then take steps to cope with them in different ways. If I have a row with Mr C, instead of stuffing my face with anything I can lay my hands on, I picture myself slimmer in new clothes - I have my eye on a gorgeous dress in JL - and this succesfully diverts my hand from my mouth. Try to find something that will work for you.....
    Good luck izzy, you can do it and if you are struggling, there are loads of people here that can offer you support. I am particularly good at nagging..............[​IMG]

     
  9. Thank you all for replying, I'm just greateful no one has said anything like 'stop eating you fat cow' lol. Yes I do think there have been triggers, lots of work related stress and others so I've turned to food to get through it and I think now it has become a habit, one which obviously I need to break. Also I've got depressed about the way I look and its stupid to comfort yourself by doing something that makes it worse talk about self destruction. I hadn't thought of seeing the doctor could this be something tablets could help? To be honest though the doctor never seems to listen. I'm going to an intensive lose it quick course on friday I hope to spend the week eating around 1200 calories a day and hope fully I will by then have lost a bit of weight.
     
  10. The only problem with the couse is that it won't address the issues around why you are overeating/comfort eating in the first place. You may lose a little weight after the week but what is going to happen when you are back at home without the support?
     
  11. I'm nit going anywhere just signed up to some training sessions to aid weightloss, I don't know what will happen when I'm home that's part the reason I posted here I just mentioned it as its something I'm doing that's relevant to my post.
     
  12. If you're a teacher or have children it;s difficult to get out of the house I know, but the last time I went on a diet I was so phenomenally hungry for ages that i cjust had to put myself in a position where I couldn't eat. Plans included going to the cinema with only the cost of the ticket in my pocket so no possibility of buying food, plus the film distracted me for two hours; going for long walks with an apple and no money; and walking into town with no money or cards so I'd have to walk back again as well (exercise too, geddit?); free recitals at the Music college. Anything really to get me out of the house in the late afternoon/evening and away from the possibility of eating.
    Do you have a telephone buddy (Alcoholics Anonymous-style!) you could ring for support and encouragement if you feel yourself slipping?
    The only other practical plan I can suggest is my usual of simply having no fattening, comforting food in the house. How you will cope if your crutches are removed I don't know, which is why a word with a GP who is a bit more attuned to emotional problems than your sounds would be an idea. I was only doing it to lose a couple of stone for vanity reasons.
    Ask at your surgery if any of the GPs has a special interest in anxiety/depression/mental health and see them instead.
     
  13. Hi Izzyf
    I understand exactly where you're coming from-I've put on 5 stones in the last 2 years-started with massive binge eating pre/during/post ofsted and it's just got worse and worse. Every holiday I calm down and lose quite a bit, only to put it on again, and more. Mostly I loathe myself and find it hard to socialise now.
     
  14. marshypops

    marshypops New commenter

    I agree with Lily about the distraction ideas, when I feel hungry (and don't want to spoil Dinner) then I go and have a bath. Also, if you start eating sugary things your body craves them more. So it might be an idea (if you do get rid of all the sugary items) is to remove all the items that have artificial sweeteners in them too (so your taste buds and brain) get weaned off the sweet stuff.
     
  15. Hi izzyf
    I could have written your post myself - I'm not quite sure what my triggers are but like you, I eat healthily all day and then come 8pm (when the children are in bed) the munching starts. I know so well the feeling of going to bed feeling disgusted with myself and promising that the next day/night will be different. A friend once suggested telling myself that it was ok to start on the mini rolls, crisps, chocolate etc IF i first told myself that I had to eat 3 pieces of fruit. Although it didn't address why I felt the need to eat, by the time I'd eaten my 3rd apple, I usually couldn't be bothered. While it doesn't address the reasons behind the overeating, it has limited the weight gain - and keeps me regular!!

     
  16. catmother

    catmother Lead commenter

    We've all been there. In my case,there and back and back and there for the last 30 years. I have no real useful advice as I've never sussed out why I overeat at some point and can slim at some other point. However,I would recommend that OP treats herself to a few new outfits in her new size. Feeling squeezed into your old size will only make you feel bad about yourself and make you eat more.
     
  17. inq

    inq

    A couple of things I have found work in the past
    1) Everytime I think I want to/ have to eat I go and clean my teeth - it takes a few minutes which sometimes stops the craving of eating something, also things don't taste so nice after toothpaste.
    2) Eat a couple of large pickled onions - they let you eat something, I can never manage more than 2, they leave a taste that puts you off eating other things
    3) Take up cross stitch - keeps hands and brain occuoied and I wouldn't want to get it sticky.
     

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