I just want a bit of advice please........... I have been with my bf for 7 years and I really think I want to try for a baby next year, after my NQT year. The problem is my bf was married before and has 3 kids. A couple days ago we were having a discussion and he said he would consider one more, I went livid with him because I was sure in the early stage he said 2 or more kids. We never really had to discuss it in depth because I wasn't ready. But I feel that I have been tricked in some sense. He's trying to blackmail me into having just one kid, saying if I chose to have more than one his other kids will lose out and they wont be able to have certain things. I saw red with this and walked out on him, he called me to return that night, saying we needed to talk, but because the kids were over I didnt make a scene and pretended everything was fine. I was then watching tv with him and he asked his oldest daugher, Sherrita wants to have two babies with me what do you think about that? I could have stangled him, I promptly called him into the kitchen and told him in no uncertain terms if he discussed this with his children before we had a chance to discuss this properly that I would leave. To be honest I don't care what his children's opinion are they are very daddy obsessed and would all declare that they didnt want another sibling, they were like this when they're mum wanted another one, she disregarded their opinion and went on to have another child and they love him. I don't need children's permission to have a child if I want one is what I'm getting at and I know they would initially feel a bit out of joint and declare no and I think he wanted me to hear and see that to change my mind. Another method of guilt trip. I love his children to bits and I have done so much for them so I do not feel bad if they can't go to the cinema every week or have a new outfit or the latest wii game every week because I want 2 kids. So I have told my bf that we both need to take time to think about this and have a discussion in July thats when the lease ends. I wanted 3 kids I have compromised to 2 kids, as I basically dont want my child to grow up as an only child, my sister was so much younger than me that we didnt get to do anything together. This will be the same for his other kids, they'll be dating and wanting independence, no doubt they'll love their sibling, but i want someone for my little one to play with and have a close bond with, is that so bad? So I am prepared to walk in July if he doesnt agree to 2 kids, am i being a b.i.t.c.h. for this? He seems to think I am being unreasonable and I want to distrub a happy arrangement and ruin his children's life if I leave because they have gotten use to me and adore me. Anyone with any advice or opinions please do share................ I don't think I'm being unreasonable.