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Probably sleep-related, but...

Discussion in 'Health and wellbeing' started by anon4046, Nov 28, 2011.

  1. ... I can't seem to shake this free-floating feeling of dread.
    I seem to be in a fixed state of worrying about stuff - work related mostly (I'm not even full-time!)but also stuff I can't quite put my finger on. I'm not sleeping well right now, so maybe that's something to do with it. I seem to have so many things to worry about, but when I try to tick them off on my fingers, I only come up with one or two issues. Hmm.
  2. It could be. I tend to feel like that when I'm not sleeping. Is it your little one that is keeping you awake, or insomnia? I got out of the habit of sleeping as my youngest didn't sleep through until she was 5 and it has taken me 2 years to sort out. Some of that was due to PTSD though.
    Hypnotherapy was the thing that helped me and I generally sleep well now and feel a lot more positive. Valerian can work well for sleeping, unless it is the baby keeping you awake.
    The other thing is whether or not you can sort out the issues that you mention, if you are tired then it doesn't necessarily take many things to affect your mood. There are also times when having young children can give you a generalised feeling of impending doom, I know that there are times that I really worry that something bad will happen to the family without there being any cause to feel like that. I think that most new parents feel like that from time to time. Basically don't worry too much it is normal although people don't talk too much about it because they think it is only them and that everyone else will think they are mad thinking like that.
  3. Anonymous

    Anonymous New commenter

    Lack of sleep, coffeekid. Sleep deprivation isn't used as a form of torture for nothing - it affects us in all sorts of insiduous ways. Get a babysitter (a passing stranger will do) and go somewhere you can sleep!
    I'm convinced that a great deal of what is diagnosed as depression and anxiety is actually sheer exhaustion because few of us sleep as much as we need to!
  4. Anonymous

    Anonymous New commenter

    I wonder if you are hyperventilating to some extent without being aware of it. I know that this happened to me and I was filled with dread and I catastrophised about all sorts of things. Lack of sleep is an awful thing and the responsibility of having a young child makes one less carefree than one ever was before. I do hope you can try to get some rest and that you will feel better soon.
  5. Thankyou for the replies, I appreciate it. Well, I feel better today. Husband got home from Finland last night and took care of the toddler when she had her usual early hours melt-down. So I could go to work on more than a few hours sleep ... which was nice. :)

    Yesterday was awful - hallucinatory, almost. Thanks again for taking the time to reply.
  6. It sounds like anxiety, tbh.
  7. I agree with the poster above me, it does sound like anxiety.
    I'm much older than you however I have found this feeling hanging around since the menopause and have recently been to my GP. He prescribed 20mg of fluoxetine, am waiting to see whether it helps.
    Good Luck, it's a horrid 'free floating' feeling, not quite dread for me, which is the problem, I don't know what I'm anxious about. [​IMG]
  8. kittenmittens

    kittenmittens New commenter

    I really relate to this, Coffeekid as I have spent much of my nearly-12 month old's life (and pregnancy) severely sleep deprived, not because she doesn't sleep well- she does-but becuase of insomnia. I've always been a light sleeper but pregnancy was v v uncomfortable with acid reflux, getting up to go to the loo 10 times a night, baby very low down from early on etc. After the birth I didn't sleep for 3 days- anxiety, hormones, trying to breastfeed. For the next few weeks I'd lie awake between feeds too. Then even when she didn't shout for me to get up every 3 hours and slept through the night, worrying she wouldn't wake up, and EVERYTHING woke me- husband snoring, cat walking into the bedroom, neighbour walking up their stairs, etc. I would lie awake for hours, have nightmares about the world ending if I dropped off. The sleep deficit builds and builds until you dread bedtime because it doesn;t bring relief, just endless wakefulness. So sleep deprived I hallucinated (beetles in the moses basket), crashed into OH's parked company car, heard crying all the time even when baby was asleep, strange thoughts. For me it's anxiety and the mother's instinct to hear a baby and wake up, in overdrive. GP prescribed citalopram for anxiety and tomazepam for when I get to the crying-with-exhaustion overtired stage, just to get back to sanity while OH listens in overnight. It's a horrible thing, sleep deprivation, and linked to mental health issues. Just wanted you to know I understand and if you need help, meds can be a lifeline- I'm now managing to teach part-time which I didn't think would be possible a few months ago. Sorry no paragraphs. Can't help with your LO's early waking but if you could sleep til then it's a start. Hope things improve. There was a good programme on ITV- Tonight: Insomnia, might be worth a look on catch-up.
  9. Thanks Kitten. It sounds as though you've had a tough time and I really feel (and empathise) for you.
  10. And also thanks to everyone else. :)
  11. Doglover

    Doglover Occasional commenter

    I haven't been sleeping well, and am in a bit of a negative cycle at the moment with it.
    It isn't easy looking after a spirited toddler on your own, when your husband is away, and you need to stick to a good routine where you can - I can hear you laughing from here, as I know it isn't easy.
    Try to get some sleep where you can, and make sure yoy are eating and getting a little exercise.
    I know the feeling you are describing, and it is horrible.
    I do think it would be worth running it by your GP.
    There are times, I almost feel as if I am on the outside of my life looking in, which is very surreal.
    I hope things get better soon xx
  12. I think the OP answered their own question when they implied that their anxiety may owe more to their not sleeping than anything else. That said, this profession is all but guaranteed to make you feel anxious, plagued as it is by needless bureaucracy and senseless bullying!
    For those like me who experience disturbed sleep which is both severe and ongoing, what is necessary is a referral to a sleep study centre. If you need this then you will have to fight for it, and giving your local Mental Health services a miss is also to be recommended as they are so reluctant to refer for CBT, which proves useful to those in my situation, apparently. As for medication, resist being put on denzodiazepam (as its addictive) and try zopiclone or clonazepam perhaps with melatonin.
    To recap, if you too suffer from severely disturbed sleep then you should dig in your heels and insist that you get what you need, rather than allow yourself to be browbeaten or patronised by the professionals in our sister 'caring profession'. In my experience, the NHS has many extremely capable and helpful specialists working for it, but it is a shame that you have to work your way through so many incompetents and charlatans to get to them!!!

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