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pressure on 5 year olds

Discussion in 'Independent' started by leanne772, Jan 11, 2020.

  1. leanne772

    leanne772 New commenter

    I have recently started tutoring a 5 year old who goes to an independent school in a leafy area of London. However, as an SEN and Early Years specialist (KS1), I am shocked that the mother was presented with at least 10 'worksheets' to complete over the Christmas Holidays and more each week. I cannot understand why a school, whether it is 'academic' ( as I've been told), or not, expect this. I am a very experienced teacher and know how children learn and this is not good practice. However, the mother is putting pressure on me to do worksheets with her daughter, because she thinks she can do it... but then admits she can't, but she must because its an academic school and they do worksheets at school. I've tried to explain that this isn't the best practice and that she would benefit from hands on learning to teach key skills that she is 'struggling' with. It's a dilemma for me as I don't want to let the mother down, but the poor child. She hates the worksheets and gets very angry and tearful. Any advice?? I don't work in the private sector, but does anyone work in a Year One class in an independent school with this expectation ?
  2. needabreak

    needabreak Star commenter

    My knowledge of a similar situation some years ago resulted in the parents being advised it wasn't the place for the child as it was an academic school. Of course they rely on their grades, it's a business so any sign of trouble ahead means they will want to conform, it's the parental view and impressions of the school that market the place and secure their income and being after all... brace yourself.
  3. leanne772

    leanne772 New commenter

    Thankyou. What a shame for the girl. I thought their job was to be inclusive and that each child is unique....
  4. caterpillartobutterfly

    caterpillartobutterfly Star commenter

    All schools have their own ethos and philosophy...sounds like this child is in the wrong school and the mother has chosen it to 'make' their child more academic than they really are. Such snobbishness certainly exists among some parents.

    You need to decide whether to decline tutoring or not.
  5. Kartoshka

    Kartoshka Established commenter

    It sounds like the girl could benefit from tutoring in order to give her the hands-on experience she isn't getting at school. Can you afford to lose this client? If so, you could insist to the mother that you are willing to work to improve the girl's key skills, but that you need to be given the freedom to use your own methods. Hopefully, if the mother gives you the chance, she will see that her daughter ends up being able to attempt the worksheets with more confidence once she has gained an understanding of the key skills.
  6. leanne772

    leanne772 New commenter

    Thank you, I couldn't agree more and I am constantly in deliberation over it. So this weekend she has 3 long worksheets to do!!!!
  7. leanne772

    leanne772 New commenter

    The problem is the mother is afraid of the worksheets not been done correctly or they get sent back.....
  8. caterpillartobutterfly

    caterpillartobutterfly Star commenter

    Parents don't generally employ tutors if they want their child to spend time playing, exploring and leading their own learning. If you philosophically object to academic theoretical work for 5 year olds, then tutoring children that age is probably not for you.

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